1st encounter with EX since the new rule

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Registered: 06-11-2004
1st encounter with EX since the new rule
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Thu, 06-16-2005 - 12:54pm

There was one day of nc, it was great. But I was expecting a call b/c I asked him if he could watch the baby on Friday. This morning he called said "good morning" i did the same. Im proud to say I kept it strictly to our son. Even though he gave an excuse of having to call me back later to let me know "for sure" if he can get him tomorrow. Im sure that's just a tactic to have a reason to talk to me again. He's had three days to figure it out and calls me this morning still unsure. What was the point of calling. Now I have to talk to him again later. UGH! I tell you it's like they play these games just to aggravate us or something. So Stupid. So I just kept my cool and said just let me know for sure later, bye. And I hung up. YEAH. I am getting stronger and didnt even realize. So it can be done, the moving on.

If you havent already please, please go to the Codependents and Love Addicts message board and read the message The Truest Truth I've ever Heard for those of you still having trouble moving on. It made a big difference for.

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Registered: 06-14-2004
Thu, 06-16-2005 - 1:37pm
Good for you for not letting him get under your skin (or at least not letting him know). When he realizes he's not pushing your buttons, he may get tired of these headgames. And I am going to check out that other board now. =)
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 06-16-2005 - 2:12pm

I'm going to post "The Truest Turth.... " here for you... and to share :-)


Ya know... I'd happily say "OK".... hey, as long as it's about DS.... let him call.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 06-11-2004
Thu, 06-16-2005 - 2:29pm

No, your right I didnt tell him not to call at ALL. i told him not to call unless it pertained to our son. Because I could no longer handle him calling for stuff for himself, wanting help from me that a gf should provide for him and then if I asked for something he would accuse me of "expecting" him to still do things for me as if he's by bf. too many head games with him. I needed to do this so I can finally move on. It was like I kept picking at a wound and it would never heal.

Thanks for posting the truest truth.

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Thu, 06-16-2005 - 8:14pm
Congratulations! You did it! Now no matter what bumps you encounter in the future, you'll know you can handle this and make it be okay for you.

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Registered: 07-28-2003
Thu, 06-16-2005 - 8:43pm

Luvred,

Next time you need a babysitter, call someone else!

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Registered: 06-11-2004
Fri, 06-17-2005 - 10:12am
No one told me there would be bumps that sneak up on you out of no where that you hadnt prepared for. One hit me this morning and I failed.
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Registered: 06-11-2004
Fri, 06-17-2005 - 10:13am
I wish I had someone else but I dont