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| Sat, 12-24-2005 - 8:00pm |
I know everyone is with their families tonight & tommorrow but if you have time I would like your opinion..
My stbx lives in a 1 room "apt" in the building that houses his office...he has converted one of the offices into an apartment..the upstairs of the converted house has 3 female students living there..
Ok so, I found out..not from him or the kids... that his gf is moving in with him in January..no big deal..except they have a 1 ROOM APT!!...it has a king size bed (for stbx and gf) and futon (for the 3 kids to sleep on) & large plasma TV..gotta have that!lol..
so when kids sleep over every other weekend they will all be "sleeping" in the same room..that wouldn't be criminal except I don't trust them to not have sex with the kids in the room...he has tried this before with me and I'm their mom & not 25yr old "hottie"
I explained to him that I knew she was moving in in Jan...he said nothing (admission)and that there would be no more overnight visits until he has a separate bedroom from the kids..he can still have the kids for visits on his weekend..but I will pick them up at night & they will sleep at their house...I told him it was inappropriate for the children to sleep in the same room with their father & his gf..
What I don't get is that why would she move out of an apartment & into one room ..that you have to walk through his office to get to the bathroom or shower...they both make good money...no great money..his credit isn't that great but hers should be??
He of course told me to go you-know-where..and said "well we'll see about that!"
so again, I have to pay money to get him to "parent" his children appropriatley...
Just looking for you 2cents worth...
Annette

As tough as this is.... I strongly suggest that you don't withhold any visitation that's legally spelled out in a court document.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
wishing you luck - and a Merry Christmas.
Thank you for your advice :)
I live in Canada ..so things may be a little different. At this point there is nothing designated by the court...he doesn't want the responsibility of kids so he is happy that they stay with me..except for every other weekend..I have been trying to get into court about this...or even get him to see a parenting therapist (?) to help him work out his parenting role...it's not my job anymore!...but it is slow going for court..
Christmas was an example...I was happy for him to have the kids from the 23rd after school until 25th 10am...then he said he wasnt buying presents from Santa...so I said okaaayyy...I will have them home with me at night on tht 24th and I will provide presents from Santa...I had my lawyer write a letter to that effect (because I don't trust him)...
I didn't specify a time because his family stuff never went past 5pm in the last 12 yrs.
then he says he will bring them home when he felt like it 10 or 11 pm...due to things I wont go into to..that would be way to late...I asked for an hour earlier..he said no..
then the lawyer got involved..they ended up getting into a "fight".after all this and perhaps $1000...we agreed he would "try" to get them home for 9pm...after all that...he brought them home at 8:15pm..when I wanted anyway!!!!! he just likes the fight..
I have always "directed" him in his behaviour with the children and now his judgement is so screwed...I just wanted to know if I was a "prude"..or whether this seemed a little strange to others as well...
Annette