2 kids How can I manage No Contact?

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Registered: 10-30-2003
2 kids How can I manage No Contact?
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Fri, 06-22-2007 - 10:40pm

Has anyone successfully managed to have no contact in spite of having small children and needing to drop/pick up the kids? My STBX is getting more and more aggressive and... well, just plan strange over the last month or so. I find myself physically ill at the prospect of having to deal with him, and would like to have a significant amount of time away from him.

I've had my lawyer contact his lawyer regarding taking a break from collaborative meetings and I've sent STBX an email outlining my intentions to have a period of no contact except via email and in a non-confrontational manner. I think all of that made him even more volatile. Oh well, all the more reason to figure out how to stay away from him. Suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

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Registered: 03-30-2007
Sat, 06-23-2007 - 8:55am
I was the go between for my daughter and ex-husband. He would drop him off at my house on Friday afternoon. Mom would pick him up. Then she would drop him off at my house Sunday nignt and Dad would pick him up.
I was easier on my grandson cause there was no bickering. Plus he loved to be at my house anyway. They eventually grew up and quit putting him in the crosshairs.
If you don't have a family member you can count on, maybe a public place would work.
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Registered: 06-05-2007
Sat, 06-23-2007 - 9:18pm
I can't offer much advice, I just wanted to let you know how sorry I am that you are going through this. Marriage breakups are hard enough as it is without worrying about aggressiveness and violence. I agree with pp. See if you can get someone as the go-between, or meet in a public place? Hugs to you.
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Registered: 04-03-2007
Sun, 06-24-2007 - 9:52am

I too have an abusive stbx.

I don't know how old your kids are, but I have written in my seperation agreement that my stbx is to pickup the children across the street. Your x can help them cross the street without coming anywhere near your front door. My stbx knows if he comes anywhere near my front door that I will call the police.

Good Luck