4days of nice and the real ex is back
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| Thu, 10-06-2005 - 12:40pm |
Well, well, well,
I cant say im surprised but he lasted 4 days of being nice and decent. He shot it all to hell yesterday. The real ex has shown up again. On sunday he was telling me how proud of me he was and how I was doing such a good job with raising the baby. We even hugged a few times during the two times we saw each other.
Well yesterday he went back to his old self after us both agreeing to make an effor to be civil to each other. He's been trying to get me to contact c.s. to cancel the arrears b/c according to him he doesnt owe the 2grand they say he does. This is based on him saying they've been taking double the percentage out his unemployment check and they never credited the arrears. From his calculations he's shown me this appears to be true. Fine I believe in fairness and doing the right thing. So I told him I would look into it.
His sob story is he was sent letters that if he didnt pay the balance by Oct. 14, his tax return would be seized and/or his driver's license suspended. He owes alot of money on his student loan (true) from jamaica and they've pulled his uncle into court b/c he co-signed on the loan and may go to jail if he doesnt pay a payment by january. So naturally he's saying he cant afford for his tax return to be messed with. He needs all he can get to send there. Whatever. The thing is its not my fault if c.s. screwed things up. I called them and they told me to tell him to write a letter expressing his concerns and any proof to back it up and they will investigate. But he wants a favor from me to write a letter cancelling the arrears because he's running out of time and this way his tax return wont be in jeopardy and he's claiming that whatever balance is left over that he owes he will pay me out of his pocket (yeah right). Or he says to right a letter telling them to credit the extra money he has paid towards the arrears thus far b.c they've been taking 35% out of the unemployment rather than the 17% rate.
Why should I have to do this? He only cares about his needs. I was asking him about the weekend schedule and he's back to that I dont know I have to let you know garbage. When we originally agreed on Sunday, he's already acting flaky. So the blowup was yesterday he felt we should have only discussed what he wanted and to hell with my issue. He said his gf got mad at him b/c he didnt talk to her right away b/c he was on the other line with me. WHAT! Then says she feels we shouldnt be on the phone but for a few minutes.
Who is the B#%CH! and why is he letting her control how long we discuss OUR son on the phone. Im so furious right now. He was also in the car with someone because he said he was driving and I was like when did you start driving again and he was like as far as you know I can be in the passenger's seat. So I said whatever, then he was yelling, telling me he's told me before not to plan my life around him and all this crap. Im was like what are u talking about. I want to get the schedule set so I can make my plans for the weekend. So nothing was finalized about the weekend and last night he left me two messages ofcourse about HIS issues. Saying he'll call me today. He's like jekyl and hyde. He was so nice over the weekend, its unbelievable. And as soon as he gets around someone he goes off on me like im garbage.
What should I do. I dont even want to talk to him ever.

Hugs, Brenda
My STBX
Girl tell me about it. What happened with the visitation was we didnt go before a judge, it was like a go between before the judge. So he suggested a mediator for us to sit down with. We are waiting for the appointment with the mediator.
As far as the c.s. issue, I was gonna write the letter because based on how he showed me his calculations are correct. But you know what, he's such bas$@#d and I did contact them once and they said he should write a letter explaining his concerns. Its not my fault if it takes time to investigate it and he has a deadline of Oct. 14. What he doesnt seem to understand is that if he writes the letter than they will get things in motion and common sense tells me that the deadline would be put on hold. It doesnt take a rocket scientist to see that. But he doesnt seem to get it. Or Im really starting to think he may be trying to pull a fast one.
We'll see, I dont think im writing anything.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~