4yo not doing well

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Registered: 02-17-2005
4yo not doing well
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Tue, 11-29-2005 - 8:57am

STBX moved about 6 hours away a couple of weeks ago.

Luna

It is better to offer no excuse than a bad one.

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Registered: 02-17-2005
Tue, 11-29-2005 - 8:59am
Sorry, I always forget to take my hat off!

Luna

It is better to offer no excuse than a bad one.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 11-29-2005 - 9:50am

Hi there..... they always say that kids say hurtful things to and about the parent that the love and trust the most.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 06-17-2004
Tue, 11-29-2005 - 6:39pm
My STBX recently informed me that he and his gf are moving four hours away in the spring when she graduates from college. There's absolutly no reason for the move other than that's where she's from. Here, STBX has a great job and everything. He'll have to transfer to the other town and it's going to take that much longer to be promoted since he's changing stores. Right now he lives about 5 miles from us and his visitation is like a chore for him. For example, he took the boys last night (he sees them *maybe* once a week and that's only so that his family doesn't completely cut him off), he picked them up from daycare at the last possible minute before they closed. Then, he dropped them off before 8am (they open at 7:30) even though he didn't have to go to work until noon. He didn't see them at all over Thanksgiving break so I asked if he would like to have them for Christmas or New Year's (his decision not to see them over thxgiving). He said, "Neither. I have plans." Yeah, plans to spend yet another day off with The Skank. And what kind of woman would ever be with a man who so obviously spends so little time with his children???? Spencer (My 4yo DS) is having a lot of problems right now. When I told him yesterday that he was going to his dad's house that night he screamed, "I HATE my dad!!!!", threw the toy in his hand at the wall and ran to his room. It is just so hard to see these innocent children going through so much b/c their 'fathers' are selfish jerks who just want to run around like they are 18-years-old with NO responsibilites. Okay, sorry to take over your post there, just had to deal with STBX earlier so I'm a *little* bit angry LOL.
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Wed, 11-30-2005 - 8:31am

STBX isn't seeing DS over any of the holidays, either.

Luna

It is better to offer no excuse than a bad one.

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Wed, 11-30-2005 - 12:56pm

i'm sorry about your son. i will give you a lil' piece of advice that i was given when I got divorced from my son's dad (my son was 3 at the time): don't always assume that *everything* is somehow related to the divorce/singleparenthood/lack of male role model/etc etc etc


(i'm not saying that its NOT related to the divorce, i'm just saying that its not ALWAYS related).


i would start with talking with his teacher/care taker. maybe they have some idea on