6 yr old begging me to keep married name

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6 yr old begging me to keep married name
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Fri, 05-26-2006 - 5:40am

My poor girl. B/c her FATHER made such a big deal about it, in front of her, now she is totally aware of what it means to go back to your maiden name. The thing is, i wasnt even definatly doing it. But i needed the court to ok it at our final hearing this next Tuesday - so, if i ever WANT to, I will.

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Mon, 05-29-2006 - 7:03am
Hey! Thats as good a reason as any!
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Mon, 05-29-2006 - 10:11am

What makes me think that your sorry excuse for a human being STBX is the one that's put the idea into Avery's head that you aren't a *family* anymore????


What a loser........


I can somewhat relate to what he's going through, he's devistated that he's lost you (AND his control over you!). This whole divorce thing has been hard on me too, not b/c I've lost STBX but b/c I've lost all the hopes of a life we could have had together. Plus, he's put the kids on the bottom of his list, way under The Skank. However, I would NEVER take my anger and grief out on my children!!!!! THEY didn't do anything wrong! Just like Avery didn't kick your STBX out of the house, yet, he takes it out on her and makes her feel as though it is HER FAULT! Everytime I read about him and what he puts little Ave through I am just more and more furious!!!

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Mon, 05-29-2006 - 6:39pm

It's so sad when we hate the person we're divorcing, more than we love our kids...

I feel like the STBX missed an excellent opportunity to explain divorce to the little girl in a non-threatening way. He could have told her that divorce doesn't take away her family, it makes her family into TWO families, with BOTH families (Mommy's family and Daddy's family) still loving her more every day, and there to protect her and care for her.

He blew it. How sad...to tell her she doesn't have a family anymore...

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Mon, 05-29-2006 - 9:46pm
Unfortunately thats because it isn't about HER, it's about HIM and his feelings in all this, that's all he can think about and nobody elses pain matters except his.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 05-31-2006 - 6:42pm

You might remind her that one day, if she grows up and gets married, that she might change her name, too!... names don't make.... or break... families.... however, if she has friends at school who have parents with different names.... who have to continualy explain who's who to teachers, I can see her point ;-)


I hate your "EX" - yea!... we can call him "EX" now!

Karen ~ wildlucky4me

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Wed, 05-31-2006 - 7:08pm

Yep. I say that ALL the time, i have told him "you obvioulsy want to punish me, more than you want to support your own child".

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Wed, 05-31-2006 - 7:09pm

We sure can!!!!!!!!!!!!


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