Absurdity

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Registered: 07-03-2007
Absurdity
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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 3:57pm

It struck me just now as completely absurd that I'm getting divorced. We were so happy - or so I thought. The wedding was 13 months ago as of tomorrow, and we were in love. So what happened? It just doesn't seem possible that he fell out of love with me so quickly, or that things went sour in such a short amount of time. It's stupid.

I know I should focus on getting through the present, rather than dwelling on the past. Things change, and those good days with him aren't coming back. Maybe one day the memories won't make me want to weep.

Has anyone else had moments where they feel like their situation is completely absurd, that it can't actually be happening, that it doesn't make any sense? They pass eventually, right?

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Registered: 08-21-2007
In reply to: galateashanti
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 6:22pm
Thats what I am wondering, if the feelings subside. I am told they do. I have been separated for 5 months. I was married for 5 years and was hopelessly in love. I never thought it could happen to me. My husband was having a affair and supposedly got the other woman pregnant. He was with her in a hotel the day before our fifth anniversary. I have been in counseling now for 3 months. I have learned that you have to go through the five stages of grief over him and then you have to revisit each stage over the hope of losing the dream of being married. i am afriad I am going to be alone for the rest of my life. I defined myself through him and the marriage. I know that was wrong but I loved being a wife. I am here to find support from others who have survived when half of the time I dont feel like I am going to.