ADD meds update-- STBX is whacko
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| Wed, 07-26-2006 - 4:57pm |
Grrr, STBX is a complete whackjob.
Today, DS had a counseling appointment. He'd been st STBX's for the past few day, so he didn't have his ADD meds. Anyway, I got to the counseling center before STBX. When he saw I was there, he was a bit ticked off. This came out as, "They don't have parking here! Why are you here? I had to park in the back!" Which he said in front of DS and the counselor. DS saw his counselor, and after the appointment was over, DS and STBX were in the lobby area. I'd just come out of the bathroom, and the counselor discreetly motioned for me to come into her office. I hadn't spoken to her yet (I usually see her for about 5 minutes before DS sees her to set up his next appointment, etc), and the first words out of her mouth when we got into her office were, "DS didn't have his meds, did he?" I said no, he's been at his father's. She said that she'd call me later, so we could discuss this.
DS and I went shopping immediately after the appointment at 12, and I gave him a portion of his meds at 1. In that hour, he was off the wall, hyper and unfocused, rushing through the grocery store and Walmart-- I was exhausted afterward. When we got home, we had lunch, and DS calmed down after his meds kicked in. He wanted to go back to his father's, so DS called STBX, and he picked him up. DS and I had been planning to visit my mom from Thursday to Monday, so I didn't mind him going to his dad's. Oh, when I gave DS his meds, he said, "Dad won't like it." We talked about this, and how I didn't like that he had to take the meds either, but they help him, like Dr. Frank's meds help him because he's diabetic.
The counselor, Colleen, called me back around 2:30, and we discussed the meds issue. We agred that we'll discuss it at STBX and my appointment with her on Monday, but she was stunned at DS's behavior with her. She said he couldn't focus on games, was belligerent, no self-control, etc. She suggested that I call DS's pediatrician, and let him know that STBX refuses to give him his meds. She said that in the state that DS was in in her office today, it is NOT the behavior that we want for school. He will NEED to be on meds for school.
Well, at 3:00, when I was on hold with the pediatrician's office, STBX drove up. I hung up, and DS came in, looking sad and disappointed. STBX came in, and said, "I can't take him. You know what you did!" I said, "I'll discuss this outside with you." When we got outside, he said, "Nobody listens to what *I* want! I told you not to give him his meds if he was coming over to my house!!" I said, "Wait a second, buster. Tom was with me. I gave him his meds because I thought he was going to be here, but he said he wanted to spend time with you AFTER the meds were given to him." STBX: "He'll be up until midnight! You gave him his meds at 1!" Me: "He's up until midnight regardless of whether or not he has had his meds." STBX: "No he isn't! He sleeps for me!" Me: "He's been a nightowl since BEFORE the meds. I'll discuss this with you Monday at Colleen's."
SO... it's about what STBX *wants*, not what is good for our son. DS is awake LONG after his father falls asleep, and is unsupervised watching cable TV until STBX wakes up at midnight, or 11, or whatever time. I called Colleen back and left a message. I also left a message for the pediatrician to call me back. This is getting crazy.

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