Adjustment period

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Registered: 02-08-2006
Adjustment period
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Wed, 05-03-2006 - 9:37am

My 2 year old hasn't seen her father in about 4 days and last night she had a melt down. She wanted her shoes on and she was going home to watch Spongebob with Daddy. I just wanted to cry. She didn't want anything to do with me...she wanted her Daddy.

With her being so young what is she going to go through in this adjustment period and what is the best way to handle it?

She probably won't see her Daddy for about a month. She can talk to him on the phone daily though. The last two days she wouldn't really talk to him much...she acted very moody with him. When he misunderstood what she had said she would get frustrated and walk away from the phone. I feel like I'm translating all their conversations...very frustrating.

I'm sure in time things will get better. My stbx may be going to Iraq in June so that will be a long time for my dd not to see her father.

Thanks for your help.

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Registered: 11-20-2003
Wed, 05-03-2006 - 10:29am

Oh that breaks my heart. Your poor little girl. :-(

I don't have any words of wisdom for you, just well wishes.

My baby is only 11 months old, so she doesn't know what is going on. Her little radar detector has sensed that I am upset/PO'ed/stressed out, but of course she doesn't understand why. Her dad sees her every few days...usually during the week b/c I suspect he has someone keeping him busy on the weekends. My biggest fear for my girl is the future. I just pray that if her dad remarries and has more kids, that he is sensitive to how that might make our daughter feel. I'm really trying to "accept the things I cannot change," but oohhh is that hard.

Anyway...good luck to you...and (((hugs))) to both you & your baby.

Beth in TX