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| Tue, 01-16-2007 - 11:58pm |
I haven't been married, but was with my x for 6 years. We have 2 young kids together. He left us in october of this year. We have continued having sex. I know stupid stupid stupid!!! He just knows the right things to say and I am so lobely that when he comes over I am so happy to talk to someone that is not 4 or 1. He will say things to me that are very mixed signals. One minute he is happy and the next he tells me I should move with him when he moves and was looking at big houses (nore than one room) on the internet with me. Kept asking me if I liked them. Then the other day I told him that this (pointing to my body) was no longer his. He kept saying "we'll see".
He has had 2 girlfriends since our breakup. I know he is still sleeping with one girl. I feel hw left this relationship to go party and be single. He rarely has his kids and when he does it is when I ask him to take them. Otherwise he is having a great life of partying with no responsibilities. He will never keep our 1 year old overnight due to him not having a crib. I think he just doesn't want me to go out and find another guy.
So my question is.... Is he just getting a break from me and the kids and when he is done feels like he can come back to me? Or is he just a crap father that wants just sex from me?
I need advice please. I feel as though the longer he is gone the more I am moving on and will not tak him back if that is what he is doing.

"So my question is.... Is he just getting a break from me and the kids and when he is done feels like he can come back to me? Or is he just a crap father that wants just sex from me?"
This isn't even an "either...or" question. "Is he just getting a break from me and the kids and when he is done feels like he can come back to me" equals "Is he just a crap father that wants just sex from me." You know this.
I agree with the other posters. Lift yourself up. You are better than this. I don't even have to meet you to know that.
Good luck! :)
So what why didnt he just help him and not live here. We had a good sex life so I am assuming he was here for that too and to be near his kids. and was comfortable in his home. now he has been having an online and phone affair with an old girlfried of 30 years ago. and he says he loves her.
I am still having sex with him occasionally. sometimes I do it to spite the other woman
tho she doesnt know about it .......I hope they do marry someday. (oh by the way she is married ) I will lure him into bed with me. I am sooooooo mad. He has filed for divorce.
but hey is that plan healthy for me? of course not!
I dont think we should be having ANY thing to do with these men. I was dished out mixed signals for many years. it just goes on and on !
Take care of yourself. Stop to think if this is fair to you. I think we both know we are not getting treated right at all.
perhaps we can move on one of these days. I have so much anger, pain, abandonment, fear and just alot of painful issues about this. I wont be healthy for sometime to get into another relationship .....ha especially where I still sleep with him. Yes that makes me like her but only in a way as he was my H for almost three decades till she came along.
He is living here as we cant right now afford to live separately.
I think his dying love for this married woman has caused me to lose all respect I ever had for him. he only knew her for six months and it was 30 years ago.
I hope someday I can tell her to her face how I feel about what she has done to our family. his adult children have lost alot of respect for him.
For me the years just drug on and on. and at times I was happy but he played all those on again off again things with my emotions. so just be careful and try to stay aware of what is happening. I am sure my stbx stayed for the kids when we had bad times.