Advice about divorce

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Registered: 08-06-2008
Advice about divorce
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Fri, 08-08-2008 - 4:03pm
My husband and I have been talking about what would happen if we divorce. Our state is 50/50 I believe. We have been married for 26 years. I have worked in the home for the past 10 years. He says that he wants us to agree terms between us and not to use a lawyer. He says that if I use one he will be forced to protect himself (whatever that means). We are quite well off, live in a beautiful house (which he has suggested buying my share of). It is on the market at the moment but with the way the housing market is going its not likely to sell soon. He wants to give me a one off payment for alimony rather than have ongoing. We own two rental houses as well. We have life insurance policies, 401K. We own one car and are paying off the other. We also are paying off a motorbike (his) and a 38' boat. Any advice on what I should do would be greatly appreciated. Many thanks, Kathy
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 08-08-2008 - 4:11pm
I think that with all those assets,
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Registered: 08-06-2008
Fri, 08-08-2008 - 4:20pm
He doesnt want to consult a lawyer because he says that we will waste about $20,000. Sorry I forgot to mention he was a lawyer in England (we are both British) but not a divorce lawyer but to qualify in his chosen field did all of the studying about it. He is very clever and manipulative and has a high powered job here (not law) but President and CEO of a company. There is a good chance that in the next few months or even a year or two he will come in some big money. I was wondering if that is a driving factor in some of the things that he has mentioned re alimony etc. Any ideas?
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Registered: 06-24-2008
Sat, 08-09-2008 - 8:00am
Musiclover is right on.
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Registered: 10-19-2003
Sat, 08-09-2008 - 2:42pm

Please get a lawyer. People turn into another kind of person when they are divorcing My STBX was a gentle soul and now he acts like the worst person on the planet.


After he moved out, he would come into the house when I was at work and that really creeped me out. I got a lawyer, who got me total possession of the house, he cannot come here without my written permission. We had a civil agreement between us at the beginning, then he turned into a creep. You need a lawyer to protect your assets. In my state, PA,

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Registered: 06-28-2008
Sun, 08-10-2008 - 8:58am
You have too many assets at stake.
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Registered: 06-06-2003
Sun, 08-10-2008 - 10:19am

Listen to everybody.