Advice Please

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Registered: 02-08-2006
Advice Please
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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 9:04pm

Today my STBX took it upon himself to visit the OW and even go so far as trying to get an apt. in her same complex.

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In reply to: justmee06
Sun, 03-26-2006 - 7:37am

Of course, I'd love to see him ratted out! HOWEVER....you mentioned that it could have an impact on his career. That means it could affect his earning potential, and by default, your child support. You definitely don't want that to happen!


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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: justmee06
Sun, 03-26-2006 - 8:36am

justmee06...

PG would like you to ask yourself a couple of questions:

"Is being a tattle-tale in the best interest of our daughter? Or am I doing this because I'm angry and it's my way to get even because he's seeing another woman?"

Put the MPO and the child custody situations aside. Your responsibility is to your daughter and the last thing SHE NEEDS is negative feedback about her Dad and what he may (or may not) be doing! Stay out of the "other woman" issue.

It'll take her a very brief time to discover your husband for the weasel that he is!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 02-08-2006
In reply to: justmee06
Sun, 03-26-2006 - 6:20pm

Thanks for the words of wisdom.

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Registered: 03-05-2006
In reply to: justmee06
Sun, 03-26-2006 - 7:39pm

Well, since you pulled the info out of him...if you rat him out he'll know it was you, and less likely to tell you stuff in the future.

I think it is in your best interest to explain to him why you are choosing not to report this now.

She sounds like a real prize!

Susie