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| Wed, 11-28-2007 - 4:08pm |
Have decided to divorce my husband of 14 years. (Will spare the gory details.) We have two children (8 and 11), a house, plenty of assets. He has been the breadwinner most of our time together and came to the marriage with some assets and company stock. I have been a stay-at-home-mom and freelance writer. He wants us to agree to an amiable splitting of the assets and avoid attorneys. He says if I hire an attorney we will just throw away a ton of money on attorney fees and it will be "war." Can divorce be obtained with a mediator or is an attorney critical?
He wants to keep the house over the long-term. As far as I'm concerned, he can have it as long as I get half the value of the house and furnishings, as I would prefer to move. I will have primary custody. Should we both stay in the house during this process? Should I move out since I will be the one leaving eventually anyhow? Then the kids would have to move now, too, and I would rather not inform them about the divorce any sooner than necessary. Is it unheard-of for both of us to stay in the house until we figure out more details?
Where do I begin???!!!
| Wed, 11-28-2007 - 7:19pm |
