Advice on visitation pickup and drop

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2005
Advice on visitation pickup and drop
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Thu, 01-04-2007 - 3:50pm

I'm having a problem in that my ex is really flaky on pickup and drop off times. He told me last night he'd get the kids by noon today and then called at 11:45 to tell me he "didn't have his act together yet" and would be by around 1 or 2. I said no, that I plan what I need to do by when he tells me he will get them and I need him to throw some clothes on and get them NOW. He ended up being 45 minutes late, but that is still better than 1-2 hours.

We have similar problems with drop offs. He told me he needs to drop them off earlier than our 8 pm designated time this Sunday, but refuses to tell me when. He said "Maybe around 3 or so". Uh, hello? Does he really expect me to sit around all day to see when between 3 and 8 he decides to bring them home?

It's an ongoing problem and the only thing I can think of to do is to maybe not be home one of these days when he needs to pick up or drop them off and see how he likes sitting in the driveway waiting for me. Any suggestions?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-05-2005
Thu, 01-04-2007 - 9:14pm
Check with your lawyer first. Do you have court orders yet. If your paper say he has to meet to pick them up at a certin time and he is not there leave. You might have to give him a certin amount of time before you leave. I know my MIL did this with SIL when she was little. After a couple of times her dad started showing up on time. I am not sure about pick up. That might be a bit harder.

 

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Registered: 01-29-2005
Fri, 01-05-2007 - 4:00am

There isn't anything real specific about pick up or drop offs in our divorce papers. We generally have him pick up the kids on Friday from school and bring them home by 8 on Sunday. But we have had times where things come up and it changes. I'm not opposed to going with the flow and changing times when needed, but I don't like him being inconsiderate of my time. I got up early this morning to be sure the kids had clean clothes, were bathed, and had eaten. If he had told me last night that he'd rather get them later then we could have had a more relaxing morning and I could have had more sleep.

I'm not really angry about it or anything, but just want to help him get it that it's rude to expect me to wait around for hours because he is disorganized.