After a Breakup or Divorce who~
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After a Breakup or Divorce who~
| Tue, 09-20-2005 - 7:04pm |
generally gets over it and moves on quicker: Men or Women?
| Tue, 09-20-2005 - 7:04pm |
generally gets over it and moves on quicker: Men or Women?
Good Question!
I think men tend to "hide" their feelings as opposed to actually dealing with them forcing them to move on.
Women..... well, I believe we deal with our feelings making our "recovery" seem longer, but in actuality it is the men who spend years recovering because they hide.... we deal.
I agree. Woman just seem to analyze every minute detail since that is the way we are programmed but in the end we are much further along in the road to recovery. When I was going through my divorce, my then 13 year old daughter said something along the lines of it seems like (ex) has just forgotten everything/everyone. How did he do that. At that point I explained, 5 years from now when we are enjoying life and his is catching up to him you will see how he did that. 5 years later we are happy, and as happily dysfunctional as we can be. Ex is still looking for ??? Funny thing is one of the reasons he gave for not wanting to be married anymore is that he was tired of being alone. He is military and deployed alot etc. 5 years later he is still alone and being the single guy in the crowd he is deployed alot. Go Figure. So, even though it seems like we are hurting alot more then they are, I think the hurt is universal and catches up to everyone.
Kelly
People move on quicker
I agree with first's take that the one's who have mad the decision to divorce are the one's who usually have worked through their emotional pain already by the time the legal stuff occurs. It seems to be the most painful when it's a big surprise to one spouse. I also believe from my own experience that the degree of post-divorce conflict also impacts on the recovery process.
Based on my own personal and very nonscientific experience and knowledge of others' experiences, the men seem to move on quicker to new partners. The women seem to be more thoughtful and spend more time single.
I vote for:
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~