After a Divorce Questions

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-11-2008
After a Divorce Questions
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Wed, 01-11-2012 - 5:07pm

I recently divorced my husband just a few days ago and I have a few questions.

Before the 2011 year ended my husband did not want to be friends anymore and verbal threaten me to not speak to him anymore. When the date of the divorced in 2012 he apologized

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Wed, 01-11-2012 - 5:59pm

First of all, if you do not have children together, there is no need to remain friends(or have any kind of interaction) with an ex.

If your interaction with him drives you crazy, stop.

Community Leader
Registered: 01-03-2004
Thu, 01-12-2012 - 8:17pm

Hi,

1) Is it normal for the exes

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-11-2008
Fri, 01-13-2012 - 4:02pm
Thank you so much for your advice but now I have more questions.

He hates his family right now because they tried to help him and I on our marriage. He called it interfering. Anyway he blames them and me for the way things have turned out.
He obviously have not spoken/seen them for weeks, even on special events. They know him of course very well.
Now he spends all his time with his friends, which I know he talks to them but not about everything.
His friends have told me he is doing good. I have heard from his family that they don't know. And he has told me he is doing horrible.

1) what is the truth?
2) why does he tell me he's doing horrible but acts ok around his friends?

Also he said he doesn't want me. But he missed talking to me but when I talked to him he can't stand me. That is why he threaten me to stop talking to him.

1) why is he acting this way?
Community Leader
Registered: 01-03-2004
Fri, 01-13-2012 - 6:27pm

He's angry.

Who initiated the divorce? If it was you, he feels very rejected. If it was him, he may be feeling remorse for having done it.

He's going to show his "I'm OK side" to his friends. And, of course, they will shield him and his hurt, and say "He's fine."