Aggravated

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Registered: 03-06-2005
Aggravated
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Tue, 06-07-2005 - 11:38am

I am pretty aggravated that I can't post what is going on with me on these boards because of certain people who linger that are involved in my personal life.


Although I have an SO who is WONDERFUL, he just doesn't understand divorce and my feelings on certain things because he doesn't experience it. I like having people who know what I am going through to talk to. Now that is ruined and I am angry about it. There are about a billion things going on right now that I could totally use some advice on, but because OW, my mother and god knows who else lurks on this board I don't want to say anything because my feelings apparently offend those people, good or bad.


UGH!


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Registered: 09-28-2004
Thu, 06-09-2005 - 12:58pm
Oh! GOOD! I was hoping she didn't get inundated with nasty responses! Glad it was something simple.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-06-2005
Thu, 06-09-2005 - 1:03pm

My apologies... looks like the lurkers are back.


I believe that to be someone who knows me. I can't point fingers but that post was definitely meant for me.


I will have the post removed. I am so sorry everyone.


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Registered: 05-25-2005
Thu, 06-09-2005 - 1:12pm
Um...yeah Obviously you know nothing about being married to someone and having them cheat on you and leave you for that person. I know for a FACT that my XH cheated on me and left me for someone else. There is never closure. There is doubt and wonder in the back of your mind for the rest of your life. You marry someone thinking till death do us part....then they cheat and you wonder what the heck was I doing wrong? Nothing usually....it's usually the other person who didnt communicate something that was bothering them in the relationship. That's not our fault but we still dont have closure.....In fact when you re-marry you are always trying to get your spouse to communicate with you. Hoping that it doesnt happen again.
Plus we aren't talking about Angie's SO we are talking about her XH.....try to stay on the topic...dont bring something into it trying to distract us from what we are dealing with now.It sounds like 1 kid getting in trouble and then briging up what the other kid did so it doesnt look so bad.....
~J
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Registered: 05-25-2005
Thu, 06-09-2005 - 1:15pm
I recall a post by you promising you wouldnt be a "lurker" anymore....
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Registered: 06-14-2004
Thu, 06-09-2005 - 1:17pm
L-
I don't think closure is about having proof or not having proof. To me, closure is more about acceptance. Achieving acceptance isn't always easy, and I don't think there's a set way to get it. But with time and work you can face what happened, accept that you can't change it, forgive yourself if you need to for any mistakes, learn enough to make any changes to yourself you need to make, and then try to let go of the past and turn your focus to your future.
-sang
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Registered: 03-06-2005
Thu, 06-09-2005 - 1:20pm

I will take care of this on a personal level.


This board is for DIVORCE.... not SO's and relationship problems so no we are not talking about my SO.


Who would know the proven facts that I have that XH cheated on me with OW? Me, not you or anyone else that doesn't live in my house.


I think this is an important lesson in OW and XW NOT getting along, ever. Even if OW promises up and down.... it just won't work.


Again, my apologies to EVERYONE on this board.


iVillage Member
Registered: 06-09-2005
Thu, 06-09-2005 - 1:23pm
what does OW have to do with any of this?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-06-2005
Thu, 06-09-2005 - 1:24pm

This is just not cool... I honestly thought that this was going to work with OW....


I guess the one good thing that can come from this is that it is now proven that I was not the problem.


Hugs and thanks for being the second voice on the subject of XH.


Angi

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-25-2005
Thu, 06-09-2005 - 1:29pm
Well if you are not the OW (created a new name for yourself) then you are a friend or family member who is biased and only hears what happens from their mouths. Which one of those mouths I do know spills out false hoods.....
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Registered: 03-06-2005
Thu, 06-09-2005 - 2:11pm

I guess I am at a loss... I have no idea what the heck happened!


In any event, thank you for everyone's post, even the bad ones....LOL


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