Almost over but he is fighting me

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-18-2003
Almost over but he is fighting me
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Wed, 06-15-2005 - 9:40pm

Found out today that STBX and I will be finalized on 8-9-05. I can't wait I f****** hate him. Yes I do!!!

We have no assets together (other than our DD). I have the 403B and he gets paid under the table and has a brand new truck, nice new cell phone, brand new shoes and sports wear and oh yeah another kid he had while we were still married but can't pay his child support for our daughter.

In our proposed final divorce papers I asked if I could change our DD name (drop her middle name and put my maiden name). Yes I thought hard about this but my married name is hyphenated and I am going back to my maiden name. So my DD is part of me and him and I wanted to drop the middle name. He told me do whatever but don't change her last name. So it is proposed that he will allow me to change her name WITH ME PAYING FOR IT ALL. Well get a response from my lawyer today and HE WILL NOT ALLOW THIS TO HAPPEN. So therefore I will petition the court and have my name ADDED to her name!!! Why!!!

Why does he have to throw a fit?!!! It isn't like I am going to go and call her by her first middle and last name. God - big deal!!! Why can't he say OK?!

I mean he doesn't pay child support on our DD but he won't allow me to change her name?

He is continously NOT sending her clothes home that I send with him. With no child support coming in I can't afford to be going and buying her something new just because he can't send her clothes home. This past weekend she came home with NO SHOES.

People these were $4 flip flops (Bratz) from payless and he says to me "I couldn't find her shoes." I said then why didn't you go buy her some?! Rather than not send her home with any (she has tons of flip flops that she has gotten with some of her outfits but this isn't the point) send them home!!! He said "J**** C**** it isn't like they were $20 I will give you the $2 you paid for them." I started laughing and said you can't even pay for child support but you are going to buy her $2 flip flops -- THEN WHY DIDN'T YOU?!!! Rather than send her home in NOTHING!!!!

Can I put something in my divorce papers saying that his contious not sending her clothes home adds up and then he would be responsible for reimbursing me?!!!

Any help please tell me -- I HATE HIM!!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 06-16-2005 - 8:40am

Well... your DD is almost old enough to start remembering these things herself (and will get attached to certain clothes and will make darn sure that she doesn't leave something at dad's).


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~