alone and hurt

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Registered: 06-16-2008
alone and hurt
Sun, 08-03-2008 - 2:55pm

Hi, this Friday will be our second mediation. We have been married 20 years we have not gotten along in a long time. In 2005 I asked him if he could not try to work with me on this marriage than I wanted to separate. Well this was one of thousands of times to reach out to him to let him know I needed more attention it was all about what he wanted our vacations was going to his parents house back home in Va. We moved to MD when he was in navy. He did not like going to any of my family functions. I was and always will be close to his family.when my family came to visit he would be very cold and standoffish which made my family very uncomfortable so They stop coming over. He raised my daughter since she was three and for some reason he calls her lazy he just does not like her and His family and my family does not understand this at all. She has been a A student all through school does not drink or smoke just got her degree as a Xray technician we also have a 18 year old son together he also A student and well be going to college in a couple months. He hates the way his dad has treated his sister. we go no where he is so cheap we live in the dark he does not flush toilet to try and save on water which is discussing. I am sorry for it being so long but I really want to get this out I have tried for years talking to his Mom but I know she cares about me and all she could say was he was not raise that away and he always was a loner. well I stopped that conversation with her for years now because she knows well I have always worked since we have been married. He rode ships a lot when we first were married. In 20 years we have never taken kids on vacation. He makes good money after retiring from navy he got a job with a good company general dynamics