Altercation w/ stbx at drop off

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Registered: 09-13-2004
Altercation w/ stbx at drop off
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Tue, 06-13-2006 - 9:55pm

I called stbx to see if he wanted me to pick up kids from him or was he bringing them back. He stated he wanted to bring them back because he wanted to use the computer and get on the internet. I told him that I did not want him here in the house using the computer as we agreed that it stays here. I am paying for the line and the internet access and all utility bills here. We are just waiting for the divorce agreement to be signed before I can finalize my refi. Otherwise I am paying the mortgage and everything that goes with it. He has moved out. He removed the furniture that we agreed upon and other expensive items that we had not agreed upon (which is a whole otehr issue). Beyond that everything here is supposed to be mine, as we agreed.

Well when he got here, he proceeded to walk thru the house opening closets, pantry, looking in cupboards all the while proclaiming..."yep mine... all mine.. I own 1/2 of all this stuff". I asked him the leave several times. I eventually told him after he asked me "what are you scared?" that I dont want to, but I would call the police if he didnt leave and/or tried to take anything further form the house. His atty, my atty and the temporary order that was put into place back in March states that neither he nor I can remove items from the house that have not been agreed upon.

The kids told me later that he was talking on his cell phone the whole way over here and calling me a "bi***". Nice.

I talked to my atty after. He told me that he has no right to be in the house if I do not want him there. I should call the police if he does it again. We are going to get in writing that the pick ups and drop offs are done in a neutral situation.

We may be going to trial if this continues....his atty is totally out in left field. Trying to change the wording on the agreement to add the craziest nonsense. My atty is about fed up with him. I think his atty is either brand new or trying to milk more billable hours out of this situation. My atty has had to tell his atty twice now that his client (me) cannot afford all these phone calls and emails that stbx atty makes to my atty. Last month alone there was $1000 worth of charges just due to phone calls and emails from this guy. And they are all way out in left field. Complete nonsense!!

My stbx cannnot afford this either, so I dunno where he is coming from. I do not think he ahs any idea what this guy is doing to him!! But, I'm not going to be the one to tell him. In fact, he wouldnt beleive me anyway!! OMG!!

Thanks,
Jan

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Registered: 05-19-2006
Tue, 06-13-2006 - 11:32pm

What an ass****!!!! Uh, yeah, I would call the cops on him...right after I killed the s.o.b. and would swear he died! That's an old saying that my Mom used to say. ("I will kill the s.o.b. an swear he died!")

I am sorry you had to go through that, that is really something...I am so sick of the stuff that has to go on and on like this. It's just so frustrating!!!!!

Take care and I wish you the best!

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 06-14-2006 - 11:13am

It sounds like it's time for neutral pick up and drop off places... either that, or you take them to him and pick them up.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~