Am I crazy???

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Registered: 08-09-2006
Am I crazy???
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Mon, 08-21-2006 - 3:49am
I recently left my husband of 12 years. One of the biggest issues was a lack of trust on his part. I put up with 12 years of accusations, and constantly having to reassure him of my feelings. I came to a point where I started to think if I can't convince him I'm not a cheater, well... So I made that mistake. No, he doesn't know, but it made me realize that if I was able to go through with it, it spoke volumes about where I was in my marriage. So, things got very bad between us, and I told him I thought some time apart would be necessary. His first thought is that I'm running off with someone - which I'm not.
All that being said - less than a week after I moved out, as a matter of fact, I was on a cross country drive from "our" house back to my hometown. One night in a hotel, I checked my email and somehow I was getting messages from women answering his online personal ad! Here's where I think I'm crazy - I'm not mad, I laughed out loud in the lobby of the motel! I saw the irony, and enjoyed it.
And now a question - seeing as I initiated the separation, and that I'm still getting emails from interested parties - do I tell him I know? Or do I just keep ignoring tit? And if I do tell him, how do I do it without sounding jealous and upset? - because I really am not.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: mother_orca
Mon, 08-21-2006 - 9:24pm
I would chalk it up to one really great moment of unexpected laughter.... and not share it with him.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~