Am I the Only One?

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Registered: 05-22-2004
Am I the Only One?
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Thu, 07-03-2008 - 12:00pm

I cannot stop telling STBX how disappointed I am in him.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Thu, 07-03-2008 - 1:35pm

No offense but are you perfect? Sure, he made promises and failed to keep them but who stayed and put up with the broken promises? Sure, you can be upset but always throwing it in his face is going to make him thankful for leaving. I know how hard it is. You devoted your life to this man and he lied and he lied. You put up with it and he wants out. Where is his loyalty? I have been in your shoes. I know you don't believe it but it will get better. You seem very upset and bitter. How do you feel about going to see a therapist? I personally did not do that but I did write in a journal.


Hugs to you!!

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Registered: 10-08-2007
Thu, 07-03-2008 - 2:02pm
No, you are not the only one.
Dee hollywood
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Registered: 07-03-2008
Thu, 07-03-2008 - 2:26pm
It's easier said than done, but why don't you spend a great deal of time writing a letter detailing all of it and don't send it?
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Registered: 08-15-2006
Thu, 07-03-2008 - 5:14pm
I did the same thing you did. My xhusband walked out
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-22-2004
Thu, 07-03-2008 - 8:58pm

No, I am not perfect and I openly admit my faults (mostly talking bs a lot).

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Registered: 06-21-2008
Thu, 07-03-2008 - 11:04pm

I am in the same boat as you are right now. I want to tell him how much he hurt me, what an idiot he is for leaving me, he's going to regret it, he didn't know how good he had it, etc... And now it seems he's doing stuff for himself that I always wanted him to do with me, like eat a meal with me at least once a day, I would have settled for once a week. I know that seems like a small thing but we NEVER ate together as he was always working and we even worked together! He would never take a

Phoenix Firebird 08
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Registered: 07-04-2008
Fri, 07-04-2008 - 8:39am
Last year my husband started staying out until 1, 2, 3, in the morning sayting that he was just hanging out in bars where he knew people.
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Registered: 10-10-2003
Fri, 07-04-2008 - 9:13am
Hi! I feel for you, and no your not alone!! There are plenty of people here to talk to, I have posted here many times and I get many thoughtful and kind replies, lots of suggestions, and advice. These woman here ROCK!! And I wouldn't be the strong woman I am today without the help of these people! My H left in Nov 07 to live with his GF we were nearing our 27th wedding anniversary, we have 2 kids, 17 and 23. He moved in with the OW, she has 6 kids, 3 at home and the youngest is 4! I spent way too much time trying to figure it out! Why would he do something so stupid?? But I finally came to the realization is you cant make sense out of nonsense! The other thing is have you seen any posts about the "180's"?? Please either look them up on here or go to Divorce Busters and find them. They are a list of things you can do to start empowering YOU!! I found them very helpful, but I did get into the habit of waiting and watching if it would change him, and he didn't really notice, he knew I had changed but it didn't seem to effect him! But its not meant for that, its meant for you to do things to make you feel stronger, build up your self esteem. After all is said and done, wether he comes back or not, you will realize you can do it without him, you will find out, you don't need a man in your life to feel whole again. Yes I too tried to talk to him a lot, from every angle, tried to get him to see he was making a huge mistake, tried the guilt trip everything, but they just don't want to hear they are making a mistake, they think and rationalize it to where they don't think they are wrong at all, and sometimes even put the blame on the BS! But its not the BS fault!! They are the ones that left, they are the ones that couldn't face the music and take responsibility for their actions.So I hope this helped you some, please keep reading these boards theres so much information here, and unfortunately many woman in your shoes! Take Care ~Mary~
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Fri, 07-04-2008 - 10:40am

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Registered: 05-22-2004
Mon, 07-07-2008 - 8:33am

thank you all for your encouragement and support.

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