am I really nuts?
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| Thu, 12-22-2005 - 7:24pm |
I thought by getting the Christmas arrangements in writing I had covered everything
stbx wasn't going to have Santa gifts under the tree for the kids so they were going to see his family on the 24th..then coming home that night...I have to work the 25th ..but I thought if I can't be home at least they can be with my family & have presents under the tree from Santa.Turns out I got a couple of hours off at the beginning of work so I don't go in till 9am..I thought kids & I could get up early do the Santa thing & then they would go to my family's & I would go to work.. (we have always spent Xmas day with my family)
I called & asked him what time he was bringing the kids home..(thought I could pick them up at 7pm on my way by)...he said well it won't be "done" til after 8pm..so I don't know...his family's is at least a 2hr drive...by the time they get home & I get them into bed..then I put out the presents & set up the air hockey game I got them..I'm going to get no sleep for the next day...I asked him not to bring them home at 10pm or later ..he said "too bad I'm not leaving before 8pm"...now in my 12 yrs in that family they have never had a Xmas go past 5pm...
I just wanted him to bring them home a little earlier so they wouldn't be so tired for the next day & I would be able to spend a little time with them before I went to work..I was a sahm for 5 yrs and have never worked a Xmas ..this is very hard for me to be away from them...on the other hand ..he had the option of having them til halfway thru the 25th & he didn't want it..
he started screaming at me on the phone...told my I was "acting nuts"...and is going to do whatever he wants anyway
I can't not let the kids go...but again he will be doing whatever he wants whether it hurts anyone else or not...its all about him...I feel like I'm being petty but I want to keep this as "normal" as I can this year..I just want a little time with them on Xmas...
What do ya think??

Nettie, I hope someone else will be more constructive.
He sounds like a jerk, going out of his way to prevent anybody from having fun in his absence. I would be speachless, if this kind of thing did not happen way too ofter.
If there is a written judgement, hold it up to him, and tell him that he will have to shorten the celebration, because by the rules, they are to be at your place by bedtime, and that is latest 9pm (or whatever suits you, make it early because he will be late).
Hey.... it's too bad that he's not thinking of THE KIDS in all of this... and how nice it would be for THEM if they got to see you Christmas morning.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
that you for your support...
I live in Canada so things might be different..I don't have anything written in stone yet because we were going to go to mediation ..then he quashed that ..then we went to court..but the lawyers wanted to work it out before...so the next court date is February..
We did "agree" to the way things should be..then gf puts in 2cents worth and he changes his mind...he can't make any decisions on his own..
Unfortunately today the lawyers got involved, (his choice not mine) and my lawyer sent a letter that unless we heard otherwise I will be picking the kids up at his family's at 6pm on the 24th...it is a 2 hr drive ..so that will get them home in time for decent bedtime...he lawyer neglected to give him that info...so I'm picking them up.
argghhhh I hope this gets easier...
Annette
That is a great idea!!!
Unfortunately, that won't work...I was working so he picked the kids up from school and has them now....they called to tell me about all the great gifts he gave them...some of which are duplicates of "Santa's"...he had told me he got them each one gift and what they were so there would be no doubles..then got whatever he wanted..
I can't afford much...so now he has spoiled even that...I know that Xmas is not about the presents and there aren't many of them..but how do I compete with that?
To top it all off when I was on the phone with my son his gf was talking to him as well...
tactless!!..well she is a child as well...lol