AM I WAISTING MY TIME????

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Registered: 12-07-2007
AM I WAISTING MY TIME????
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Sun, 03-02-2008 - 4:58pm

hello everyone. i have been separated for about 5 months and i'm doing much better. however my husband left our home into his own. now i'm trying to an door to developing friendships and possibly dating. we have 5 children together and we are doing much better than before. we once were physically fighting and now we have lunch and dinner together. my dilemma is now he wants to reconcile but he doesn't want to rush into things. i agree with him totally except there's one problem- he won't stop talking to his so called "friend".


he constantly questions me about what i'm doing and who i'm seeing and i always give him answers to these questions but he doesnt want to give me answers to the things i want to know! also, one poit in time we were working on it and now it's like it's back to where it was. my question is should i go forward with filing a divorce or should i try wait and try to work it out? i'm really confused and i want to but i can't give him my heart and he stomp all over it again. I really need feedback on what to do!!!

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Registered: 10-25-2006
Sun, 03-02-2008 - 7:04pm

Marm,


Separations can be tools to reconicilation if they are used to full advantage. It gives both you and your husband breathing space and takes you both out of the "heat of the moment" so you can gain perspective. THat's the upside of being apart.

CL-Wisdomtooth2020

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 03-13-2008 - 1:14pm

Hi.... I agree with cl-wisdomtooth :-)


He needs to show you through his ACTIONS that he's serious about doing some work to get things back on track with YOU... and only YOU.


Here's my thought..... most guys (and not saying yours is *most*, but......) would be better off to string along a woman they are married to and have FIVE kids with than to be in a situation of divorce..... especially if they can strong you along while having fun of their own on the side.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~