Am I wrong?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-24-2012
Am I wrong?
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Tue, 01-24-2012 - 1:26am

I am a single mom of 4 girls, my two oldest are now on their own and I am raising my 6 and 4 year old by myself. Right now I have joint custody with my ex but am looking at going for sole custody. He will go 2 months at a time without any contact with the kids, he will call and then tell them he will call the next day, nothing for two weeks. I have no way of reaching him as his cell phone is always broken and gone for repairs or has no minutes. He's a pathological liar and a drug addict. His own mother even told me to go for it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Tue, 01-24-2012 - 1:39am
Absolutely not. If their dad is a a drug addict who can't even maintain a working phone (what happens if one of the kids gets hurt and he's druugged up and doesn't even have access to his phone)? Even his own mother sees him for what he is. which is a druggie who can even maintain a phone. For your daughters own safety you need to get sole custody of those girls.They could get seriously hurt when their in his possesionand you'd never forgive yourself if they did.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-24-2012
Tue, 01-24-2012 - 7:20am

Last summer, he bluntly told one of my older girls that he can't go a day without smoking his weed.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 01-24-2012 - 11:14am

What is more important than sole custody (since it is really not going to have any practical effect on your daily life since he's not around anyway) is for you to modify visitation so that he only has supervised visits by a professional and that he has to take drug tests before he can visit.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-25-2012
Wed, 01-25-2012 - 5:21am

No, you are not wrong at all.