Am I wrong for being angry at this?

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Registered: 10-27-2005
Am I wrong for being angry at this?
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Tue, 04-04-2006 - 10:49am

My ex just informed me last night that he is taking my daughter on a one week vacation to Myrtle Beach this summer, with his girlfriend. Ok- not only does that mean my little girl is going to be away from me for an entire week, but that she is going to be with his little {profanity} for an entire week bonding and getting closer to her, while being far away from me. Am I wrong for thinking this is wrong? If I actually had a boyfriend, I wouldn't imagine going on a vacation with him & my daughter, I wouldn't want to confuse her. Am I overreacting & out of line?

Lainie

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Thu, 04-06-2006 - 4:26pm

Nobody is perfect. Don't feel jealous. Remember that even if they look like they have a 'perfect' relationship there is no such thing and you kow that. I often felt like that, when I got divorced, I thought how is life so unfair, this woman came into my marriage and now has my husband, got the house and a happy family, all the things I wanted and here I am barely struggling to stay afloat financially but their whole world came a tumbling down less than 3 years later...nothing is always as "happy" as it appears. So I wouldn't get all worked up.

You will meet someone when the time is right for you. You still have things that you need to work on with yourself, you still seem a little hurt by everything that transpired, things aren't going to happen when you are angry, mr. right isn't going to come swooping in when you aren't in a place emotionally to accept him...

Let your daughter go on vacation, it's good for her to spend quality time with her father, it will be good for you to get a much needed break, an entire week for you to catch up on some reading, some fun time with some friends, I'd take some time for just you, go do some day trips to the beach yourself. Utilize this free time while you can, it doesn't come along often when you are basically a single parent.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 04-06-2006 - 5:08pm

You're not going to confuse her.... by exposing her to "friends".... AND.... even if she's seeing things that are a little more romantic, well, I certainly want my kids exposed to appropriate ways to express romantic feelings.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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