Am I at the wrong board?

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Registered: 12-30-2003
Am I at the wrong board?
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Sun, 03-20-2005 - 2:53am

I came to "Surviving Divorce" a couple of weeks ago to get advice and got some great responses. But the thing is I'm not divorced and I haven't filed yet. Neither has xh. Hope that doesn't disqualify me from being here. What I can say is soon and very soon steps will be taken.

Tonight I came to complain... The breakup of my marriage has caused financial problems just like most others here. Because I have a low paying job I can't afford my own apartment right now - so I'm living in a boarding house. Here's my complaint - the guy in the room above mine makes really loud noises when he's having sex. It erks me to no end! But then I have asked the question why? Why is it bothering me? Right now I'm not particularly interested in being in a relationship with a man in any fashion. I want to get on my feet and heal.

So why do his moans and groans bother me? I don't think I'm jealous... hmmmmmm. What I hear myself saying under my breath is why would someone make so much noise when he knows people around him may hear him? These are not apartments they are individual bedrooms in a very large house.

This guy also plays his guitar at 7 am while I'm meditating. Not loud, but loud enough to be irritating. I'm going to buy some earplugs tomorrow at Wal_mart! AAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 03-20-2005 - 8:42am

You're at the right place! Have you ever heard of Co-abode? This may be a perfect option for you. Here's a link to the website http://www.co-abode.com/

Stick around!
Melanie

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Registered: 12-30-2003
Sun, 03-20-2005 - 9:45am
What a great website! Thanks! I don't have children but I will pass it on.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 03-21-2005 - 2:33pm

Earplugs or playing your own music... softly as a distraction that only you can hear.... are both excellent solutions and ones that YOU can control, however.... there should be some "house rules" in place, as well as just having common courtesy for the others that are around.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~