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Thu, 07-27-2006 - 10:33pm

Ugh...

It's been nearly two weeks since the kids returned from their dad's. They're still recovering and I am so happy to have them here, but I'm reeling from the way they returned.

I can't remember if I mentioned in the update about the state of their suitcases, but OMG. They were packed full of rumpled rolled up clothes, impossible to tell what was clean and what was dirty. It took me several days of unpacking and washing and drying to see that not only are my kids missing some of their stuff, but we ended up with my ex's girlfriend's kid's stuff. Ugh. So I e-mail the ex about it and get no response. When I realize that NEITHER of the EpiPens I sent with my son came back I called the ex (my son has a life threatening allergy to peanuts). He told me he packed one of the injectors, but that he never did go pick the other one up at the camp like he had told me he did. What a liar. Not only was there no medication, but he specifically told me that he was on his way to DS's camp to pick it up. When he insisted he packed one, I asked which suitcase and he couldn't remember. Maybe I sounded like a real $)&^)**, but I told him that was too bad for him that if he couldn't even remember where he packed it how was he so sure he really did pack it? I also told him he owes me either two EpiPens or $45 EACH (they cost 45-80 each depending where you get them). I then tell him that DD left her cell phone charger at his house and that DS is missing a bunch of shorts. He says he'll look for them. He asks me to send the other kid's stuff back and I told him I will when I get our kids' stuff.

Today a package comes. It has one injector. It is an EpiPen Jr! This is not my son's medicine, he uses a regular EpiPen since he's over 80 pounds. Now I have some other kid's meds, I'm missing my son's meds and there was no check to cover replacing the one that is missing. Now what? I called ex on his cell phone and as usual he did not answer. I don't dare call his apartment because I don't want to have a conversation with his girlfriend. I feel like it's a stand off. I still have his gf's kid's stuff (and the four pair of adult socks that don't belong to me) that my kids brought home in their suitcases and I'm happy to send it to them, but I want our stuff back too. I dont' want to be petty, but I'm sick of being a sucker.

I have to admit a big part of me thinks I should just drop the whole thing, replace all that is missing and keep going along and do my best to ignore ex. He's such a loser, I hate that I even bother with him. He's the most careless person I've ever met.

Melanie

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Thu, 07-27-2006 - 10:44pm

I definitely would hold "their stuff" hostage.... but not get your hopes up that your stuff will be returned.... however, use this as a lesson for your kids to make sure that they're keeping with with their stuff... and searching for things.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Thu, 07-27-2006 - 10:56pm

I agree to everything you said. I wish the kids had been more careful and I thought about an inventory list, but I feared it would be lost and not used and I was packing my whole house for a move at the time. And I am a bit annoyed by my kids leaving stuff there, but they're kids, I'd hope that the ex would be a bit more aware than that.

I also agree whole heartedly about the camp being irresponsible when they gave the wrong meds back. I used to be camp director and that is completely unacceptable! However, if x paid attention he'd see that DS's meds are in a yellow tube and this one is in a green tube. He could have caught that mistake as well. Oh and just for the record, they ended up not going to the Y but to a park district camp. I didn't want to say anything bad about the YMCA when they had nothign to do with it ;). In fact, DS is at Y camp here in TX while I'm at work and he's loving it. I'd call the camp myself but I no longer have the contact info since my kids are home. Sigh...

Hold it hostage eh? I'm glad you don't think that's petty. I don't want to play games you know?

Melanie

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Thu, 07-27-2006 - 11:13pm

It's not being petty OR a game.... "I can't send your things back until mine are returned because you've not shown me lately that you can be responsible, and the things that I have should motivate you to remember to send my things back."


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~