and the award goes to....

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and the award goes to....
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Wed, 04-05-2006 - 11:29am

BEST HUSBAND AWARD

to you, Mr. M.

I hereby award you the BEST HUSBAND AWARD

in recognition of your 'behavior above and beyond the call of duty'

.....for all the cups of tea that you DIDN'T make your wife, while she was vomitting from the chemo

.....for all the times you DIDN'T have sex with your wife (this should probably get a separate award lol)

......for all the dirty laundry, wet towels, plates, toenails, newspapers, junk mail that you left all over the house

......for all the times you controlled your wife by witholding money, sex, affection until you got what you wanted

......for your abuse of your wife's son - the same son that you swore you loved to pieces, the same son that you swore that you would raise and cherish and love.

......for every time that you put your wife down

for this and more ---- we award you Mr. M

the BEST HUSBAND AWARD

(now - let's see you guys top this!)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 04-05-2006 - 12:07pm

sk1960....

PG's first thought after reading your post was the sentence: "spoken like a bitter woman!"

If you feel that your 'venting' took some of the marital burden you've been going through OFF your shoulders...then I suppose it was necessary??

But to quote Todd Rundgren's song: "IT TAKES TWO TO TANGO!" "It's true...yes it's true...I'm as guilty of the sin as you. I've heard all the names...I've played all the games...you must admit you helped a bit...IT TAKES TWO TO TANGO!"

(there's more, but I think you get the idea?)

More than likely there are one or two behavior traits (in YOU) that your BEST HUSBAND AWARD winner could call YOU on?

Question is.....could YOU handle and accept the criticism if HE DID?

Pianoguy

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Wed, 04-05-2006 - 12:21pm

I'm sitting on my hands for this one, PG..... I know that sk can enlighten you to exactly what she put up with... trickery and all!


I actually thought her post was in a good spirit (and a bit humorous)... a true testament to where she's been... and where she is now... and probably a spinoff to some other posts we've done recently where we've elaborated on these kinds of SpeeeeSHuuuul UHwards for our dearly departeds.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Wed, 04-05-2006 - 12:48pm

I'll take you up on the challenge. . .PG.

I absolutely realize I wasn't a perfect wife, but who is. I had high expectations of my husband in terms of his professional integrity, emotional maturity, and commitment to family. It seems as though my expectations were too high. I fully admit that I am quick to let my emotions get the best of me, but that is due to my passionate nature. . .I love as heatedly as I feel other emotions.

I will say, however, that while I was not perfect I was a damn good wife in the areas that I feel count most: fidelity, caring for spouse, home, and children. I was loyal and faithful (he was not). I cared for him without question and always put his needs above my wants (he did not.) I cared for our home, literally and figuratively (he did not, as he ofte squandered marital assets). I also cared for our children (he has virtually no relationship with our oldest and youngest children and plays favorites in the most disgusting manner with our middle child.)

I will also say. . .that despite his short comings, I would have moved heaven and earth to save our marriage. He, however, couldn't lift a finger to do so. . .and turned to other women, consistently. And trust me, his turning to other women wasn't a reaction to my short comings as he's already cheated on his latest girlfriend and they've only been 'officially' together for 2.5 months.

You found SK's post bitter. . .possibly. . .I find yours condescending (consistently condescending, not just this particular post). She'll get over your assessment of her post about as quickly as you get over my assessment of yours, I'm quite certain.

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Wed, 04-05-2006 - 1:17pm

Can YOU handle some criticism??

Why refer to yourself in 3rd person? It is odd and irritating and smacks of an overblown ego. Plus it reminds me of that Seinfeld episode.

Step2 signing off...........

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Wed, 04-05-2006 - 3:16pm

Pianoguy,
Isn't this section of the message board for spilling our feelings & venting if need be?
Why did you feel the need to respond so condescendingly to her post where she was clearly letting off some steam? I don't see anything wrong with her post.

Lainie

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Registered: 03-16-2006
Wed, 04-05-2006 - 3:40pm

pianoguy....

nicknat2006 thinks that YOUR post sounds a little "like a bitter man"! Perhaps you have some resentment towards women??? If she can not vent here, perhaps pianoguy could direct us to a place where we can vent without getting a holier than thou attitude from you. We're here to vent, not get a lesson from you on how YOU think we should be. nn2006 thinks pianoguy should work on himself before "advising" others on how to behave.

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Registered: 09-29-2004
Wed, 04-05-2006 - 3:50pm
Step2 thinks nn2006 very funny.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 04-05-2006 - 5:21pm

LOL!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Wed, 04-05-2006 - 5:24pm
Well now, I have to agree... I'm interested in what PG will say next

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Wed, 04-05-2006 - 6:37pm

Pianoguy, you just lost any respect I might have ever had for your self, your opinions or your perspective on this board.

I also find the third person thing very creepy.

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