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| Wed, 04-05-2006 - 11:29am |
BEST HUSBAND AWARD
to you, Mr. M.
I hereby award you the BEST HUSBAND AWARD
in recognition of your 'behavior above and beyond the call of duty'
.....for all the cups of tea that you DIDN'T make your wife, while she was vomitting from the chemo
.....for all the times you DIDN'T have sex with your wife (this should probably get a separate award lol)
......for all the dirty laundry, wet towels, plates, toenails, newspapers, junk mail that you left all over the house
......for all the times you controlled your wife by witholding money, sex, affection until you got what you wanted
......for your abuse of your wife's son - the same son that you swore you loved to pieces, the same son that you swore that you would raise and cherish and love.
......for every time that you put your wife down
for this and more ---- we award you Mr. M
the BEST HUSBAND AWARD
(now - let's see you guys top this!)

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It sure is! I'm happy to see people using this place to vent...it's helpful and therapeutic!
Plus, sk1960's post was pretty darn funny!
What lies behind us and lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
virgogirl914...
You probably didn't expect a response....but I couldn't let this one go!
Pianoguy has said in hundreds of posts (and Karen is familiar with at least a couple) that the opinions I express are based on the words that ivillagers use. Almost always, I read each question (or post) twice before offering a response. And that response is going to be from a "male point of view!" Doesn't mean you have to accept it, agree with it, or even bother reading it?
So if you choose to avoid my responses entirely...my feelings won't be hurt. They're just out there like EVERYBODY ELSES!
I haven't the slightest doubt that most wives do ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING IN THEIR POWER TO KEEP THEIR MARRIAGES INTACT....even if their "male counterparts" don't appreciate, acknowledge or even deserve their attention! Actually, some men deliberately go out of their way to screw up and tick their spouses or g/f's off...and I don't support this group at all.
BUT...there are exceptions to everything.
Unforseen events or circumstances---like turning to someone out of sympathy because of an unexpected death, a sudden dismissal from a job, even to extract some form of badly needed emotional comfort---can happen on the spur of the moment .
And you're correct...SK's post WAS BITTER! Because it was a stereotype that could be directed and applied toward ANY MAN....even if he didn't possess every single flaw that she mentioned.
That's why I responded the way I did!
Pianoguy
step2littlejs...
Just as a refresher...and for the benefit of the "new visitors" to the board...Pianoguy begins all of his posts in the 3rd person.
IT'S STRICTLY A WRITING STYLE AND NOTHING MORE!
If you notice, I often revert to first person in paragraph 2 or 3....(and every so often, I'll 'bounce back to 3rd person'). But it's nothing for any ivillager to lose sleep over!
I'm probably one of the few exceptions, but I never watched SEINFELD...so the episode you're referencing doesn't compute!
Pianoguy
Lainie1015...
As there are 2 sides to every coin....there are also 2 points of view: male and female!
PG offered his.
Doesn't mean you have to accept it, agree with it, or even read it. It's just one man's opinion!
Pianoguy
nicknat2006...
Pianoguy has no problem with anybody who chooses to "vent!" .
But is there resentment towards ALL WOMEN on my part...I DON'T THINK SO? Do I get a little frustrated when I make an honest attempt to provide an alternative male viewpoint and the result turns into "more than a little male bashing"....possibly???
However...if you can provide the names of at least 5 men (currently residing on this planet) who haven't been annoyed by a feminine comment, habit or trait AT LEAST ONCE OR TWICE IN HIS LIFE...then tell me who they are and I'll look 'em up?
Pianoguy
Karen...
Once again....Pianoguy sincerely appreciates YOUR SANE VOICE OF REASON!
I think that's why I enjoy visiting this board as much as I do.
Pianoguy
watershed2006...
Please take a look at all the earlier responses (including the one about the 3rd person writing style).
I can't command nor do I expect "respect" for my thoughts. Simply put, they're one man's viewpoint. And in a "women's network"...many will always be subject to argument or debate!
Then again...am I not permitted to take an opposing point of view from one that you might have?
Pianoguy
well PG...
first of all - i want to apologzie to you (and any other guys) if i insulted you. that was not my intent. the whole little post was just a little attempt at creative writing humor....
and now - at first, i had intended to ignore your post. then, i thought of coming up with some snappy, annoying, cynical reply.
but you know what PG - i think you raised some interesting and valid points and you deserve a reply.
so here goes.
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actually - i am not bitter. i WAS angry and sad and frustrated and probably bitter. but i am past that. i was trying to be humorous, as i explained above.
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yes, you are right. it takes two to tango. i have NEVER, at any time during my marriage, tried to sit there and point the finger, without going thru some very difficult soul searching. I am not BLAMING my ex husband for everything - and i definately shoulder 50% of the responsibility. BUT ---- let me explain something. my ex had serious emotional/physical/psychological (and god knows what else) problems. HAD he been honest with me upfront, BEFORE we got married, i would not have married him. but he lied to me from the beginning, and continued throughout the marriage to not only LIE about his issues, but to actually BLAME ME. do you understand this ?? HE has issues with sex and sexuality (which, of course, he had in his first marriage and he lied about that too), and then he blamed me that it was my fault he couldn't perform because i was (too fat/bad breath/too pushy/not nice enuf/) and so on. do you understand this - i actually went to a sex therapist because i thought taht *I* had a problem, and i thought that *I* could somehow fix this. i went to a dentist because i believed him when he said i had bad breath. etc etc.
so yes - i am guilty of issues. i am guilty of having been an enabler. i am guilty of being a door mat. i am guilty of being passive agressive in my past and other things. but i have NEVER intentionally hurt someone, i never intentionally prevented my spouse or step child from buying things that they needed, i never intentionally put someone down day after day after day. in fact --- he had these sexual issues and i never put him down for that. yes - i tried to fix thing, but i tried in the spirit of 'lets fix our marriage'
i left no stone unturned in trying to fix things. he portrayed himself as an orthodox religious man, he only wanted to go to religious counselors - so that's what i did. i went to the sex therapist as i explained above. i spoke to his GP. went with him to alternative medicines. bought him a dr. phil book which he proceeded to lose.... and said it was the most boring thing he had ever read (mind you , this man was addicted to self-help books and tapes). we went to another therapist. he came for several sessions and sat there like a log. he finally stopped going because 'he didn't need it'.
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yes i could , he did, and i did. when he criticized me - i fixed things. because - unliked him - the marriage was important to me and i did whatever i could to save it.
peace....
pianoguy....
sk1960's post was about her husband and her husband alone. Nowhere did she imply that she was talking about ALL MEN. She was, quite funnily, venting about him. Is she bitter? Yes. Who is she bitter towards? Her lowlife ex-husband. Does she have a right to be bitter? Hell yes!
The fact that you saw it and perceived it as bitterness towards all men is precisely what makes me conclude that YOU are the one that is bitter towards ALL WOMEN. That you can not read a post made by a woman about a man and not get upset. This is not the first time nn2006 has noticed this about pianoguy, so please do not try to tell me it's not true. The fact that you need to make a woman, who is obviously hurting feel even worse by calling her bitter, which she has every right to be, is beyond disgusting. Have you forgotten what this board is about? Why we are here? Please try to refrain from scolding anyone for their behavior. You are in no position to do that. Thank you.
As for this...
"However...if you can provide the names of at least 5 men (currently residing on this planet) who haven't been annoyed by a feminine comment, habit or trait AT LEAST ONCE OR TWICE IN HIS LIFE...then tell me who they are and I'll look 'em up?"
If you can name me ONE woman, I'll do the same. Point is....we're going to vent. Let us, don't judge us or ignore it. Now THERE'S an idea!
Edited 4/6/2006 12:42 pm ET by nicknat2006
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