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| Wed, 04-05-2006 - 11:29am |
BEST HUSBAND AWARD
to you, Mr. M.
I hereby award you the BEST HUSBAND AWARD
in recognition of your 'behavior above and beyond the call of duty'
.....for all the cups of tea that you DIDN'T make your wife, while she was vomitting from the chemo
.....for all the times you DIDN'T have sex with your wife (this should probably get a separate award lol)
......for all the dirty laundry, wet towels, plates, toenails, newspapers, junk mail that you left all over the house
......for all the times you controlled your wife by witholding money, sex, affection until you got what you wanted
......for your abuse of your wife's son - the same son that you swore you loved to pieces, the same son that you swore that you would raise and cherish and love.
......for every time that you put your wife down
for this and more ---- we award you Mr. M
the BEST HUSBAND AWARD
(now - let's see you guys top this!)

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When you mentioned that your 2nd promised to be a "dad", I just remembered seeing a snippet of the Maury Povich show yesterday as DS was channel surfing.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
<> like "wild" would ;-)
I tOoooootally ageee!
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
FWIW, Pianoguy, I find your quirky habit of referring to yourself in third person rather endearing and interesting. But then, I AM a "wordie"...
I was interested in your observation..."The "finding a male replacement" thing seems stronger with women---than the opposite scenerio is with a man?" Is this what you have observed in the people around you? My experience is the exact opposite. Most divorced men I know remarried very quickly while the divorced women stayed single much longer.
My ex did it, dated like a maniac until he found one willing to take him on--it was embarrassing for our children. Practically every divorced man I know remarried within a year or less of the ink drying. Granted in some cases it was to the other woman, a whole 'nuther ball of wax, but it seems to me the desires for sex and a maid are extremely strong, especially if she is a "younger" maid--LOL.
Just my observations in my little corner of this world...
Have a great weekend, I'm looking forward to nice weather and fun stuff to do.
Cupcake
Cupcake,
I totally agree- that's how it has been in my scenario also. My ex & I have been separated for 1 1/2 years, divorced for 1 year- and he is already ENGAGED....whereas I am terrified to be in a relationship. Yes I have dated (obviously, i'm pregnant- LOL) but I absolutely refuse to be someone's "girlfriend" right now. I just can't go from 'wife' to 'girlfriend' until I heal this emotional wreckage I am dealing with. I don't know what the statistics are, but it would be interesting to see who generally does jump right back into the world of relationships: men or women?
Lainie
Hi momsacupcake!
Pianoguy's reference (to a woman's desire to hook up with a new partner quicker than a male would) was based on the number of ivillage posts he has read over the years. Most of these were written by women
I know there ARE men who---due to death, divorce, separation, or just the fear of being alone---find it IMPERATIVE that a woman's presence be a significant part of their day-to-day lifestyle.
And honestly...there's nothing wrong with this sort of desire...providing the man loves her, pampers her, listens to what she has to say, and makes an honest attempt to "keep his mood swings to a minimum!" I think Aretha Franklin summed it up with her huge hit:
"R-E-S-P-E-C-T!"
Weekend weather update: It's supposed to be beautiful in MAINE on Saturday afternoon and all day Sunday. But with all the rain that's falling at the moment (circa 4:30PM on Friday EST)....you wouldn't expect this sort of "change in the weather" at all?
Pianoguy
When I was at the library reading books on divorce, I found some statistics on the subject of how quickly men and women got remarried. A greater percentage of men remarried more quickly compared to women. I don't recall the percentages anymore, and I think the statistics were more than 10 years old, but a lot of men get remarried within two years. If I recall correctly, after several years it was like about 90% of men had remarried and 75% of women had.
The speculation in the book was that since women had their children more of the time and were more likely to be struggling financially, that impacted their dating. Men didn't have their kids as much and generally weren't struggling financially, so they had more time, money and energy for dating.
PG -- Please note: I'm not trying to bash anyone - this is just something I read!
I was merely relating what I had observed in the people I personally know, not scientific at all...
I didn't realize you live in Maine--that's one place I have a real desire to get to. I love the northeast, being a Southerner all my life, it seems quite a different world from what I know. One of these years, I'm gonna leave this hot Texas summer and get to Maine! Eat me some lobstah!
The weather was terrific here all weekend, went to a flea market and worked in my yard. It's beautiful again today.
Cupcake
abbynwb...
PG didn't find your statistic "bashing" at all. Simply because he has read similar statistics in other sources.
What puzzles me is whether a man takes on a 2nd wife because he's lonely for female companionship, the sounds of children, or just has an overall fear of being by himself? It could be ALL 3 REASONS.
But if at least one applies....providing "financial support or assistance" doesn't seem to be an issue. The expense is often worth it when it comes to having a little love and understanding from a partner.
Pianoguy
Hi momsacupcake!
Pianoguy (who is not a "real maine-ah", but has lived here since 1980) thinks the Pine Tree State is fantastic! A little chilly during the winter months, but definitely worth a visit. [I always tell friends to come in September because the state usually has terrific weather, there's less traffic congestion, and most of the kiddoes are back in school!
Incidentally, I have "southern roots" myself. Dad was born and raised in Mansfield, Arkansas (before heading up to New England)....and I still have several cousins who live in Oklahoma and Arkansas.
So every now and then...I'll fake a few new friends out by uttering a sentence or two with "an unexpected southern drawl!"
Pianoguy
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