and for those with OW in life....

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Registered: 03-26-2003
and for those with OW in life....
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Thu, 03-01-2007 - 9:44am
I just read a message about the gift to dd from OW. This made me think how I would respond. Probably the same as gal-pal's original reaction. But I have to wonder, from those of you with the OW in your life...if you are "okay" with things like that, how long did it take you to get to that point? I know I dont even want my kids to meet her...but she's a nut too. (STBX disagrees of course) But it's only been 8 months since seperation and maybe a few months STBX has eben with her. I still love him and don't want my kids to replace me with anyone...since he already did....and thats what it ultimately feels like when they have to "buy" the kids affection.
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Registered: 03-11-2004
Thu, 03-01-2007 - 1:52pm
The children will know when they are being bought. You are their Mother and always will be. Don't waste your energy down talking your ex or gf. Spend that time having a wonderful loving relationship with your children. They'll always remember that. If we let our anger get in the way of a relationship with our children (and it will if you make them choose) we are making the biggest mistake ever. If their father is a louse they'll figure it out on their own and they will need you to hug away their hurts.
Hugs, Brenda

Hugs, Brenda 

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Registered: 04-08-2005
Sat, 03-03-2007 - 11:40am

Hi

I don't actually have the OW in my stbx's life but there is another woman, just not the same one that he originally had the affair with.
I am having an extremely hard time with his relationship with her. I get sick just hearing her name and when i found out that she drove my oldest son down to the recruiting office for the military i flipped. The logical part of me knows that she won't replace me but the emotional part of me doesn't want her to have anything to do with my two sons. They are all i have and while my stbx has his two sons he also has her and her two girls. Not sure i will ever be ok with her having any contact with my sons but know that it will happen, just need to learn how to deal. I suppose if i was able to let go and move on as he has i would be better, but i am not there yet.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 03-05-2007 - 10:28am

Hey.... first off... you're the only mom your kids will ever have! :-)


Ya know.... I was skeptical at first.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~