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Wed, 09-13-2006 - 5:10pm

Although my middle DS is 22yo, I just had to share with you what my XH has done now!

My DS left for basic training in the Navy last Tues. I've been talking to DDIL almost everyday since. We have been patiently waiting for his address. We knew it would at least come on the box of civies he was sending home.

I can't tell you how angry I have been since I talked to my DDIL last night!!!!!!!!!! GRRRRRRRRR

My xh and his w are both sociopaths- per my children's mental health professionals in the past- truly they are. They are both mentally ill, extremely!!!!!!! So, maybe I shouldn't be surprised, but this goes beyond immoral and is illegal, too!!!!!!!

My DDIL doesn't have an address to get mail at (long story short- no mail delivery where she lives, long waiting line for P.O. Box). So, she gave DS her parent's address to send her mail to. He mailed it to his father's house, instead. DDIL was aware that this was a possiblity. She was getting VERY concerned because she had not received his box of clothing or a letter; therefore, she has not had his address to write him... or for anyone else- ME!- to write him either. She had called XH's house everyday for the four days preceeding yesterday. Every time, she was told by W that they hadn't got a letter. Yesterday, she got XH on the phone when she called. He told her that they had a letter there for her. As soon as he said that, W was in the background saying, "Gary, I have to talk to you RIGHT NOW."

DDIL went over to get the letter. As soon as she walked in, XH ran over to the table, grabbed a box (Gee, I *wonder* what was in it since it was the right sized box for DS's clothing.), and shoved it under the table. DDIL was handed the letter that had been opened. It was dated the day he got there. They had had that letter for that entire four days!!!!!!!!!!

Oh, it doesn't end there!!! DDIL started to leave with the letter. W said, "You *AREN'T* taking that letter with you!" in her really b****y voice. Then they told her she could write down the address, but she was not leaving their house with that letter. Can you believe that )(#%&#)%(&% )#%&(#)&%)(#*%)_#%!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am LIVID still!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My dh said I should find something online about the laws regarding opening other people's mail and email it to them. I don't think it's my place to do that. They are adults. They have to deal with this in their own way. Am I wrong. 'Cause I would really LOVE to do that!!!!!!!

GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: amcanmom
Wed, 09-13-2006 - 5:45pm
That's just crappy!

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 11-22-2001
In reply to: amcanmom
Wed, 09-13-2006 - 5:55pm

Was that letter addressed to your ddil or to your xh? If it was addressed to dil, and xh opened it, that is a federal offense (mail tampering). if it has her name on it, she has every right to take the letter with her.

That's creepy.

deb

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: amcanmom
Wed, 09-13-2006 - 7:14pm
It was all addressed to her. They have been physically abusive in the past. XH is VERY intimidating and verbally abusive. W is worse with the verbal abuse. They think that they are above the law when it comes to the children (who are all adults now). They do not look at the children as adults, much less DS's 18yo W. She is a VERY meek little thing. Lies like crazy, but I won't get into that as it is a moot point in this situation. NO, she did not get to take the letter with her. She wrote down the address and told them that she won't be speaking to them. That was the safest and smartest thing she could have done under the circumstances. Can you believe that a judge thought it was important for the kids to have regular contact with this man????




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Registered: 12-16-2004
In reply to: amcanmom
Thu, 09-14-2006 - 8:46am

I think