anniversary would be tomorrow

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Registered: 04-19-2005
anniversary would be tomorrow
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Mon, 04-25-2005 - 10:25am
He filed for divorce only a week ago and I've been okay for the most part in terms of actually functioning. However, what would be our 2-year anniversary is tomorrow and as the hours are ticking by this morning, I'm feeling more and more not okay. Any positive thoughts to help me get through the next 48 hours would be greatly appreciated! =)
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Registered: 06-14-2004
Mon, 04-25-2005 - 10:47am
It's perfectly ok to not be feeling ok today. Right now you're still trying to adjust to the shock of the filing, and having your anniversary date happen so close to that must be very hard to deal with. But just remember that even though you're feeling low right now, it really does get easier as time passes. Hang in there.
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Registered: 12-16-2004
Mon, 04-25-2005 - 11:08am
I know how you feel. Wednesday would be my 3 year anniversary.
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Registered: 09-02-2004
Mon, 04-25-2005 - 2:32pm

To me, divorce seems rather like a death, the death of the "forever do us part" dream. That deserves grieving in my opinion. Your feelings are valid and normal. Anniversaries hurt. Saturday would have been my 22nd wedding anniversary had we been able to stand each other that long. Married for 19 years, he found another love immediately. That really hurt. Many, many regrets on my part.

Treat yourself very gently and compassionately. Write about your pain and know that you're not alone. It does get better.

Take care,
Cupcake

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Registered: 03-06-2005
Mon, 04-25-2005 - 2:41pm

First, here's a hug!!!!


I know this is hard. It stinks and sucks and all that jazz... KNOW that EVERYTHING happens for a reason. I didn't know it then, but my ex left me and our children for someone else to clear the way for me to meet someone new and begin a new fullfilled happy life. It's true ;)


Hugs to you and we are here if you need us :)