any advice?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-17-2005
any advice?
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Thu, 09-22-2005 - 3:55pm

Hi everyone,
I am very new here. I have no support system and a headache for a husband. As he says its been over for some time now I want him out and I don't know how to proceed.
There are a lot of complicated issues with his brother, his brothers girlfriend and their daughter (they live with us). And the fact that I am due with our 3rd child at the beginning of the year.
Money is a definate issue as he works and I don't but I had inherited several properties from relatives. He never had issues with money before, it was all both of ours but lately he says his paycheck is his. Well then I feel our house that is paid for from the sale of a couple of the properties is mine even though both names are on it.
He says that he will fight for and get custody because he has a job. However he doesn't do any of the work as far as raising the kids.
We are having financial problems at the moment - some due to helping his brother - and we are trying to get that straightened out.
Any opinions on getting us out of debt first and waiting to file after that is settled? I can't take much more of any of the bs going on with so many people in the house. But a couple of more months and finances would be set. It would be easier then. My sanity is hanging in the balance but I wouldn't be able to survive right now without his paycheck. I feel stuck and any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks so much

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: violinartmom
Thu, 09-22-2005 - 10:05pm

Gheez.... they really are dreaming when they say some of the stuff that they say...... Welcome to the board!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~