any advice?

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any advice?
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Wed, 02-28-2007 - 9:35pm

stbx was served again today. since 8:00 pm, he has sent me at least 8 text messages that aren't very nice. i've deleted them, but now i am wondering, is this some kind of harrassment? do i really need to put up with this crap?

i will call my lawyer tomorrow, but can someone give me some insight please????

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Registered: 07-28-2005
In reply to: whatabadidea
Thu, 03-01-2007 - 4:37pm

I would keep the text messages and share them with the lawyer. Keep everything for documentation. I am not sure if you can somehow print thoses messages. However, at your court appearance, I would bring them out. You never know how things can go from bad to worse and you not see it coming.

Good luck.

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Registered: 02-26-2007
In reply to: whatabadidea
Fri, 03-02-2007 - 3:09am
lol, dont call your lawyer, just laff it off, i send my ex 2 messages a day, sometimes 20 depending on the situation. ive been divorced for almost 2 years now and the only way to tell her i still love her is threw text and she has threatend me sometimes and then i send her funny ones back, kinda like how evil and hurtfull she can be.just be nice to him aND he may be nice to you back
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Registered: 02-23-2006
In reply to: whatabadidea
Fri, 03-02-2007 - 6:52am

J--

apples and oranges. i bet you didn't send texts that said "youre a whore", or "i'm taking the children", "you're a cold hearted bitch?"etc..............

big difference from an "i love you" or "i want you back". and i bet you weren't intoxicated either.

i'm not sure you have read all of my posts. i supported this man for 5 years while he was drunk. he has lost job after job, left his children without basics such as food, clothing, no health insurance, etc. i left him only a month ago. it was the hardest decision of my life!! (we were married for 20 years) he is again unemployed by choice and has no money no food. so i pay his utilities for him, including his tv entertainment, buy him food, give him money for gas. you're right! i should be a little nicer to him and maybe he'll stop blaming me for everything and calling me a whore.

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Edited 3/2/2007 6:56 am ET by whatabadidea




Edited 3/2/2007 7:25 am ET by whatabadidea
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Registered: 02-26-2007
In reply to: whatabadidea
Fri, 03-02-2007 - 12:45pm
hmmm, yea maybe i missed a few lines in the post, but then again im not there to see whats said and what goes on but i do believe there might be reasons hes like he is, i have no idea though, the name calling and stuff like that, i never called my ex bad names but sometimes i would love to just for the way she talks to me, im just adding 2 and 2 together thats all, maybe you should stop wipeing his ass and letting him walk all over you if thats the case
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Registered: 02-23-2006
In reply to: whatabadidea
Sat, 03-03-2007 - 2:24pm

For those of you interested:

yes, according to my attorney, numerous text messages can be considered a form of harrassment. his recommendation was to contact the police if at anytime i felt we (the children and i) were in danger. now i don't believe my STBX would ever hurt any of us, but being off certain medication, drinking excessively and stress can cause one to do something out of character. my attorney also offered to contact STBX to inform him of the consequences if he did not stop.

i did tell stbx that i would be happy to speak to him at any point regarding the D or the children, but he was NOT to speak to me with harsh words or tone. he agreed,

until the next binge i guess,..........

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