Any good Revenge stories out there???

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Registered: 07-27-2002
Any good Revenge stories out there???
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Sun, 09-11-2005 - 2:26pm
I've been told that the best revenge is living good and NO CONTACT, but I'm sure there are some good stories that has taken place

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Sun, 09-11-2005 - 4:51pm
I don't care about revenge, I just want to be able to raise the kids without the constant battle with him about who does more The kids are caught in the middle and the only way to stop that is to stop the constant power struggle with him.
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Registered: 10-20-2004
Sun, 09-11-2005 - 7:21pm
i'm with you. peace of mind is all i want. i want my kids to be happy and they are. no revenge necessary. just want to relax and enjoy my life and have the usualy ups and downs -- i could do without the low lows!!
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Registered: 10-30-2004
Sun, 09-11-2005 - 7:50pm

Oh I know. I thought after the divorce life would go on, but the ex seems to want to cause problems at every turn. I'm finally in a place where I don't care that he's telling everyone that my work hours make me an unstable mother. I know the truth. I have the receipts and the calendar that shows exactly what I do and it's because of my work hours that I have the time to take them to their doctor and dentist appointments and when the school calls it's me that they call.

I just don't care any more what he thinks. I can't convince him that he's wrong minimizing what I do and I'm not going to let it make my life miserable. I'm here for them and I work full time for them.

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Registered: 10-20-2004
Sun, 09-11-2005 - 8:00pm

that's the kind of thing that would eat away at me. it's great that you can get past it.

(by the way i do fantasize that my ex's girlfriend will give him the boot -- i guess that's a bit of revenge)

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Mon, 09-12-2005 - 12:21am
Yep. So far i have lost 36# of the 65 I gained while married.

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Registered: 09-02-2004
Mon, 09-12-2005 - 10:55am

I personally am trying to avoid seeking revenge and to avoid feelings of victimization in general. If I am trying to "get back at" him, then I am no better than he is, because he has deliberately taken actions to cause me much pain. I actually am trying to have feelings of forgiveness, not for his sake, but for myself, so I can move beyond this pain. I am hoping to one day get to a point of neutrality as regards the ex; where I couldn't care less what he thinks, says or does.

I do get some satisfaction from the knowledge that I have made an excellent life for myself and my children and been able to very adequately support myself without him. Proves his statement that I'll fall apart and be destitute totally wrong.

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Mon, 09-12-2005 - 6:02pm
Looking good is the best revenge girlfriend!!!!
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Registered: 07-14-2003
Mon, 09-12-2005 - 9:27pm

As much as I agree that depriving the ex of one's new and improved self is the most excellent way to stick it to them, I can't help admitting that the shrimp-in-the-curtains story is great.

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Registered: 11-13-2004
Mon, 09-12-2005 - 11:11pm
I don't know if this qualifies as revenge necessarily, but I am doing better without him. The kids and I are doing great, financially and otherwise and a small part of me really hopes that bothers him. I have also lost some weight; not much; but I plan on losing alot more. More for myself than for him, but it won't hurt to rub that in his face. I would also like to start dating someone eventually. Someone who is kind; who has character, and someone who is good to my kids. I think seeing me with someone else would bother him, because it bothered me when he started seeing his girlfriend; of course that was all behind my back, so naturally it did. I just want him to know that he didn't break me, and that I am a better person without him, and that he really lost someone who really loved him, trusted him, and believed in him. And that I won't be stupid like that where he is concerned again.
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Registered: 09-05-2004
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 11:54am
When it was time to modify our CS amount a couple of months ago, my Ex e-mailed me about how much better I've been doing than he has. E.g., I have a better house than his, I drive a better car than he does, etc., all of which doesn't matter toward calculating the CS amount. He was merely trying to avoid the increase, but it did make me feel much better!

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