Any good Revenge stories out there???

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Registered: 07-27-2002
Any good Revenge stories out there???
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Sun, 09-11-2005 - 2:26pm
I've been told that the best revenge is living good and NO CONTACT, but I'm sure there are some good stories that has taken place
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Registered: 06-11-2004
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 12:55pm

Well I too am trying hard to move pass any feelings of revenge. But I did have a little bit of it today I think.

I showed my ex that I am a much bigger person than he ever will be. See a few months ago we got into a big thing and he diswoned our son b/c he couldnt have his way. Weve had no contact for over 2 mths. My son will be 3 in November and is having surgery tomorrow (getting his tonsils and adnoids remmoved)I had debated back and forth on whether to tell him or not.

I told him this morning and you should have heard his voice. He sounded so shocked that this was going on. Said he would call me later for more info. If he does or doesnt I dont care.

I feel good in showing him that even though he first walked away from a great woman and then had the nerve to walk away from his own son and Im still able to overcome all that and call him to inform him of what's going on with his son because it's the right thing to do and no matter what's going between me and him I will not put our son in the middle.

At least I know now its truly up to him, what he does. B/C if I hadnt told him and god forbid something happened 1st thing he would have said was how could you not tell me what was happening. Even though he is fully capable of calling me.

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 2:29pm
Actually I think the ex is getting revenge because I am in bankruptcy court now. I swear the divorce God are biting me in the a$$!!! I'm pretty happy otherwise though, I have a solid job, I own my house and I have friends, family and a BF. I'm trying really hard to be there for the kids and hopefully the appreciate it. I think the ultimate revenge would be if he moved to his GF's and he was able to take the kids with him. I don't see that happening though.
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Registered: 09-28-2004
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 5:30pm

I wish I had a better story! LOL! But here is mine...
XH had a big TV he loved. He insists that he paid for it all by himself (I beg to differ, I have cancelled cheques to prove it.) The darn thing was four years old, and used to make this horrible funny noise when you turned it on, I think the delivery man had dropped it. (I tried to get XH to call the warranty people before the warranty ran out, but no, he wouldn't). Regardless, he was convinced it was HIS, and only his. We also had two kitchen table sets. One was an old, beat up one my parents had given me, and served as a worktable, and the nice oak set we had purchased.
When I caught XH cheating, I told him to get out. He took a suitcase worth of belongings with him, then I changed the locks. I packed up everything else that I considered to be his (aka crap I didn't want), or that he had brought into the marriage. I didn't let him choose at all. I told him he had forfeited that right when he betrayed me. (Twice). So I placed everything in the driveway and notified him to come & get it. Boy, was he ever mad when he discovered that the oak dining set and his big TV were nicely locked inside my house, home alarm system TURNED ON. (the place is in my name - his credit's crap). Hee hee hee!!! I got a phone call from him that practically set my ears on fire. But I stuck to my guns. I wasn't letting him have the dining room set, and he could have the TV, certainly! But he had to buy me a new one first. Well. He was less than amused. But after two months, he got the message... I got my shiny new TV and he got the old crappy one that was bigger, granted, but I think was close to being on it's last legs...

And I too have lost weight - from 160 to 139... size 14 to size 10. And I'm not stopping until I hit 120!

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Registered: 09-14-2005
Wed, 09-14-2005 - 1:31pm

Why when anyone splits up...we have to consider the actions of revenge?

As saying from a guy's perspective. I thought I too wanted revenge on the soon to be ex. I went online to meet some women, thinking well crap...if she started relationship with someone she did meet online, after we had seperated the first time..cause she had a relationship with a married guy from her old work place (tho she swore up and down they did not had sex). I guess, I wanted for her to find out how much it had hurt me for things she did...or worst yet did not do to share with me how she was feeling..although she claims she tried. To take such stupid approach in my part, instead of forgiving and really dig the heels and work on the marriage(relationship), thought giving her a dose of her own medicine was the right thing to do....TOTALLY SO WRONG!!!!

I know that I too will be able to get my well being to where I want it to be..and will have so much of goodness to offer to a lady in which I can totally TRUST with my heart and feelings.

I still do care about her, and feel that she is an awesome mother to our sons...but for her to have done those things to me...I can never ever forget....but I am starting to see a counselor to help with getting me there to forgive. And to become a better person.

Best wishes to all of you on this Journey

Rob

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Registered: 07-27-2002
Wed, 09-14-2005 - 2:00pm

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I think the reason is because of all the CRAP we have put up with ...the lies, the deceit, manipulation, cheating, controlling, hiding things, stealing things, etc...etc...so the worst comes out...in our minds and thoughts, we don't always act on them...were stilling getting over the fact that my EX took my dog last Feb...haven't seen him since and if you think that sits well with me...aarrrggggg...

There are little things that I have thought about..without him knowing who it was doing it...like transfering all his minutes to my calling card from his, because I know his card number..when we moved out last march, we wrote the number down and used it when we got to our new place and when we ran out of minutes..he put another 600 minutes on thinking he must have used them...Laughed my A$$ off..or sending a ecard to his goonie friends down the road that he always stuck up for intead of me and put his email address on (thinking there getting a card from my EX..)and tell them how crappy he treated his ex wife and all the LIES he ACTUALLY DID tell me.so maybe his 2 friends (thats all he has)will think that he was the jerk and not me..(all the time thinking its from him with his address on....I think it would be hilarious...He deserves it...he's put us through hell and back.

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Registered: 09-14-2005
Wed, 09-14-2005 - 2:16pm

Sorry about the dog...but otherwise u are right about the deceit, the cheating....we even at once had joined cell phones...and discovered that she got a prepaid cell phone...so I obviously was not able to find out..since no bill ever came to the house.

When she considers some guy she met online more important (as a friend) as she puts it..how the heck is that suppose to make me feel...grrrrr

You are indeed still bitter...and I understand that. Some funny ways that you are going about it..but it might backfire on you.

Best wishes to you.

rob

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Registered: 09-28-2004
Wed, 09-14-2005 - 6:14pm
Oh! Hee hee! Love the e-card idea!
I also managed to get all of the "club points"... our local grocery store has a program where you show a card with purchase and you collect points. I had lost my account card, but I was able to get it replaced, and cashed in all the points. Had a very nice evening out at a movie with my mom, including munchies! And dessert at a restaurant, too... I had enough points to cover it!
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Wed, 09-14-2005 - 9:54pm

YEY on the wieight! I have 30 more to go & have already dropped 4 sizes. It ***IS*** the best revenege b/c he called me fat names ONE TOO MANY TIMES!

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Wed, 09-14-2005 - 10:00pm

Rob, i think there are, as in anything, varying levels of bad relationships & of "revenge".


It seems like you still loved your wife. I am sorry that this all happend to you. Its not fair. You sound like a good guy & a great Dad. But many of us were NOT married to anyone like that. For me, losing a lot of the weight i put on over the years of being in a marriage that was a sham - abusive, alcoholism, financial irresponsibility ... & basically, he was a really mean rotten guy to me - a bit of "revenge" on my part is justified. In reality & seriousness, i truly wish the best for him. If only for my dd's sake. I pray one day she can have a father who is sober, healthy, sane & decent. A good role model who is responsible & kind.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Wed, 09-14-2005 - 10:06pm

Oooh! That reminds me! I knew our marriage was closing in, but he turned 40 last Sept & i knew he always wanted a suprise party. So i threw him a BIG one. Catered, the works, at our house we had just done a new addition on. It was really fun. & whats funny, it was AT this party that i realized it WAS over, soon.

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