Any good Revenge stories out there???

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Any good Revenge stories out there???
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Sun, 09-11-2005 - 2:26pm
I've been told that the best revenge is living good and NO CONTACT, but I'm sure there are some good stories that has taken place

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Registered: 11-12-2004
Thu, 09-15-2005 - 12:06am

The closest thing I have come to wanting revenge is imagining him getting fired from work because of his agressive attitude.....general misery for him as a result of his behavior. Pretty much the usual.

What I have actually done that gives me great satisfaction is that I have managed quite well financially under the circumstances. He always told me that I couldn't manage without his pay check. In 10 years he did almost nothing to furnish the house and left me with stuff that was from college days. It was pretty worn. He forbid buying new because 'we are too financially strapped' according to him and we were always overdrawn. Then he left along with that second pay check he said I couldn't live without. Suddenly I had more money than I ever had. I then realized he had been siphening his entire paycheck and at least a quarter of mine to his own private accounts. Needless to say, this of course left us 'financially strapped'. When he was gone, I suddenly had 100% of my pay check to spend, which essentially gave me a raise.

I have started furnishing the house with that extra money. Slowly but it is coming along. The other thing he pitched a fit about was if I spent any money on buying clothes for myself. What little money I had available for clothes was spent on buying my son his seasonal wardrobe. He always freaked when I would spend a good sum on excellent snow boots for son, since he wears them all winter and they should be good to the feet. But there I would risk overdrawing rather than skimp. I was, however, still wearing stuff from the college days, since there was no money to buy anything new. I had sweaters that had holes in them that I would patch by hand. I would wear my hair down just to cover the patches. Certain shirts I would wear had holes in them that I would always wear a jacket with. People would ask me at work if I was hot, and I was truly embarrassed to be wearing such things. I had shoes that had soles peeling off. I took superglue to glue them back, until a hole wore into the front. Even then I wore them a few times more, being careful not to put my feet up where someone could see that they had holes. I would even panic about having to take off my shoes because someone might see the holes that were also in my socks. How pathetic. Since he has been gone, I finally got a decent wardrobe. I now wear nice shoes, have shirts without any holes, and I feel great. People have noticed and gave me wonderful compliments on how I look. That is a great revenge for me.

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Registered: 09-17-2004
Thu, 09-15-2005 - 7:42am
The best revenge for me would be if STBX married one of these hot, young things that he sleeps with and they popped out about 3-4 kids and gained 100#.
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Registered: 07-14-2003
Thu, 09-15-2005 - 10:16am

Rob, I think you nailed it. Whether we go there for real or just in our minds, the vengeance thing is a temporary trip. I think in the end what we want is justice. The thought of someone causing harm and leaving us to feel all the hurt while they go on unscathed, likely to do it again - that's horrible! But eventually we separate and care a lot less what they do.

I wouldn't blame your response for the end of your marriage. It wasn't the only factor, and everyone makes mistakes. The opposite might have been a mistake as well - sometimes we can't know. Don't forget to forgive yourself.

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Registered: 03-06-2005
Thu, 09-15-2005 - 12:36pm

I have thought and rethought about my response to this thread...lol


I never once set out to say "I am going to get him back.... bah!" It just sorta happened that way.


When he left I pined over him. God I thought I loved him and wanted him back..... right up until I had our daughter 6 months later. Then something changed in me. Maybe it was he and his girlfriend telling me they were in love....lol. idk.


Anyway, I stopped pining and started dating. I had to get myself away from the thought of him. I didn't "get back at him" on purpose.... but since then, here I am, I am HAPPY, 85 pounds lighter ( 265 down to 180 ), I am with a wonderful man that my children LOVE, I am in school, taking care of myself ( which I NEVER did when I was married ) I look good ( pardon me for patting myself on the back but I look at pics from before and pics from now and seriously I wonder how he ever stayed married to me that long! ) He hates EVERY minute of it too....lol. He tries so hard to tick me off every 2 weeks after he sees me and it never ever works. I know he is jealous. I am the person he met 7 years ago now and he hates that I have made better for myself rather than sitting around waiting for him. I also filed for divorce. If I hadn't, he would have still procrastinated, 2 years later.


So, losing weight and moving on is the best revenge. Atleast it is in my story, even though I didn't mean it to be ;)


Hugs to all,


Angelena










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