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any imput would be appreciated
| Sun, 12-18-2005 - 9:55pm |
My stbx moved in with the other woman and her friend( another woman) also in the process of a divorce - so we have a 3s Company situation going on...3 bedroom apt...one bedroom for friend , one for stbx and ot and one for my 2 and 5 yr old sons when they visit.......is this a healthy environment for my kids????? Do I have to agree to this? Has anyone had a similar experience? I haven't allowed overnight visits because of it...my lawyer makes it sound like its inevitable.....any help/comments please!!!

lidz,
I agree that it's not the best situation for your kids to see. My girls are the same age as your boys. Their dad is currently living in a shady motel with a male roommate (just a roommate, that's all) who is a chainsmoker. They do not visit him there; I am encouraging him to look for another place but he says it's all he can afford. He is trying to catch up on long-overdue bills--I recently found out we have been without car and homeowner's insurance for weeks--but it's just because he was too lazy to write the checks, not because the money wasn't there.
Anyway, if your lawyer says it's going to happen, then I guess it is. I think I would try to put it off as long as possible, but don't say anything negative about the situation to your boys. I tell my girls that Daddy is living in a place right now that's too small for them to visit, but he's going to get a better place where they can go and spend the night really soon. They are crazy about him; he's "Fun Daddy" and I know they miss him. Right now he either visits them here, which is barely tolerable for me, or takes them to the park, McDonald's, or his parents' place. (he lived with his parents at first, but that situation hit some bumps and he had to move out)
Are you more worried about the other woman or her roommate? Would it make a difference if your boys thought both women shared a room, and Dad had his own room, if he agreed to it?
My heart is with you; hang in there, and good luck.
jujud
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~