anyone else feel this way

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Registered: 03-03-2006
anyone else feel this way
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Mon, 05-08-2006 - 10:57pm

I ruin time with my DD because I think I only have x amount of days then she goes with her sperm donor.

I am going to die this summer when she goes every other week with him and then the awful 2 week block. I cried last year when we just had to do the 2 week block. I cried and cried and cried and when my kid came home she was awful for the first couple days back.

I dont' want her to go that long without seeing me or for that fact her father. 2 weeks is just too long I personally think 7 is too long. My DD is going to be 6 and when she comes home every other weekend from her dad's SHE TELLS ME, I DO NOT ASK, my daddy left and went to the bar or my daddy said he would be right back and went golfing but I was crying and so and so told me to just relax. i just tell her well your daddy shouldn't do that so you need to tell him if that bothers you because mommy can't. She said she does and he says sorry but then he leaves again.

He just told me today he isn't working anymore. I have no idea why he can't work. He can still get his GF prego and have her on welfare while he doesn't support our DD.

I think he just doesn't get it. Or he knows it pisses me off that he treats our DD like crap.

This is going to be a truly long and awful summer.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 05-10-2006 - 10:46pm

Well.... I'm sure that I would feel differently about my kids being away if they came home and told me things like that.


Just try to focus on the time that you do have.... and when she is gone, make plans to do things to rejuvenate yourself... plan a hike, clean out a closet, paint a room, check out a new book to read... or a movie.... or come here to vent.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 11-22-2001
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 10:23am

Focus on the time you do have with her and make the most of that time. Then, when she's gone, make sure you fill your time with things for YOU! Go out with friends, go shopping, get a hair cut/manicure, do stuff around the house. Make the most of your time alone!


I have heard of some situations where, when the noncustodial parent has the child/children for 2 week blocks, the other parent gets them for visits 1-2 x week during that block (so you dont go 2 weeks without seeing them). Maybe see if you can take her to dinner 1 x week while she's with him. This will give you a chance to see her and make sure things are going OK.


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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 12:37pm

That's a great idea.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~