anyone else having trouble telling?
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anyone else having trouble telling?
| Wed, 09-06-2006 - 10:20pm |
Hi, all. I'm in the middle of my divorce right now, and I'm having a really hard time telling people we're getting divorced. My family and closest friends know, but some of my other acquaintances still don't know. Also, almost no one that I work with knows. I still wear my ring at work, and I'm having the hardest time taking it off. I never wear it on the weekends or when I'm away from work. It makes me feel like a fraud to wear it, but I'm worried about the questions I might get if I stop wearing it.
I know this divorce is the absolute right thing for me and my son, but I can't get past the stigma of it. I don't judge other people I know who are divorced, so why do I have such a problem with this?

Well, it probably has something to do with emotions... and the workplace.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Hugs, Brenda
Hugs, Brenda
Thanks for the reply. I think you hit the nail on the head with the failure. Divorce is having to admit failure in a very public way, which is really, really hard.
Best of luck to you, too.
It might be helpful to have a rehearsed answer ready. Maybe something like, "I know it's a shock, it was to me too" or "yes, I'm getting divorced, but it's a little hard to talk about it right now" or whatever's appropriate for you.
I know it is incredibly hard. There were times where I literally thought I would die if one more weight was dropped on me.
If it helps, I now (3 yrs later) can honestly say my divorce was the worst and best thing that ever happened to me.
I wish you the best.
Beckie
Beckie
When I told people I was greeted with hugs and a the words that was about time and good for you. So good luck!!