Anyone else married 20+ years?

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Registered: 07-24-2008
Anyone else married 20+ years?
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Thu, 07-24-2008 - 2:03pm
Is there anyone out there who has been married forever?

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Registered: 10-25-2006
Thu, 07-24-2008 - 2:35pm

Rockchapel,


Hello and welcome to the board.


The number of divorces occuring in 20+ year marriages is rising every year.


And divorce doesn't mean you'll be lonely forever.

CL-Wisdomtooth2020


Some commonly misspelled words on this board:


You're = contraction of "you are"; You're going away?

CL-Wisdomtooth2020

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Registered: 10-10-2003
Thu, 07-24-2008 - 5:29pm
Hi rockchapel, we were headed for our 27th anniversary, when my H left me to go live with OW and her kids....she has 6..3 still at home and the youngest is 4. Can you say FOOL! IT's been a real roller coaster ride for me and our 2 kids. I'M at the point where I really don't care anymore what he does or who he does it with. I'M ready to file, the 2 losers can have each other. I cant see getting back together after all the pain and hurt hes caused me and our kids. He is a narcissitic lier, who will most likely never grow up. She can have him! I tried everything to get him to come home, and now IM done I can say I left no stone unturned. He will have to live with what hes done for the rest of his life. He is living in fantasy land and one day he will wake up. I'M sorry to hear about your marriage to, I too thought we were a solid couple, I never knew in a million years he would be capable of doing this to me and our family. I thought we had made it, well now you know I was the one living in fantasy land. HA IM just glad that I make a decent living and I know I can make it on my own. Take one day at a time and you will be fine. I'M reading this book that you might be interested in its called YOUR BEST LIFE NOW by Joel Osteen. IT has helped me put all this into the right perspective. Good Luck and GOD Bless......
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Registered: 07-23-2008
Thu, 07-24-2008 - 7:30pm

HI...I was married 27 years when I decided enough was enough! I've been separated and living on my own with my 2 kids (13 and 10) for 8 months now. We separated because

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-24-2008 - 8:50pm

29 years married, here.

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Registered: 06-06-2008
Fri, 07-25-2008 - 10:18am

We split a month before our 30th anniversary-divorce is not final but there is no turning back now. We were always total opposites and when people would comment I would say opposites attract. Only in magnets! I never saw the divorce coming-STBX saw a lawyer and talked with his mom and never said anything to me. He had been drinking and sulking but he was always moody-


I was just out walking the dog and a neighbor drove by asking why we were leaving (for sale sign on lawn) and I said he already left-I have no choice. At this age that is so hard for me to say I'm getting a divorce...it's been almost 8 months and I hate to tell people because I still feel like I failed-it's a personality thing I know-but I've always overachieved and to admit you couldn't "keep your husband" does something to me. I know this will pass-already some days are brighter when I see the opportunities out there. So much is the day to day waiting getting thru the messy before you can really even think about the opportunites ahead. I feel too old to start again-Fortunately it will not include thinking of another man. One broken heart is enough for me. I don't see ever "liking" my STBX. The way he has handled all of this has faced me to see how self-centered and self-absorbed he is and always was.


anyone out there in the market for a beautiful 4 year old house on a lake (swamp land???)

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Registered: 10-19-2003
Fri, 07-25-2008 - 11:29am

I have been married 29 years and my husband left in March to find his soulmate.

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Registered: 01-31-2008
Fri, 07-25-2008 - 12:37pm
We would have celebrated our 25th anniversary in August but he left in March.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 07-25-2008 - 1:37pm

To all the "old ladies"

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Registered: 06-06-2003
Sat, 07-26-2008 - 7:22am

Hi Rock,


I was married for 27 years when everything came apart.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 07-26-2008 - 2:04pm

Daisy's mom...........part of healing is admitting what is going on.

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