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Anyone enjoy being single?
| Sat, 03-24-2007 - 10:20am |
I am married, we are in counseling, have children- (been together almost 20 years)
I enjoy ANY time that I can be alone, nice and quiet and peaceful. I love for the kids and DH to go out to dinner without me.
I think it would be fine to be divorced and share custody-
Are there any people who divorced and really enjoy the new freedom?
Or is everyone lonely and miserable?
eve

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The grass always seems greener on the other side. So be careful. I just ended my second marriage. I was widowed for 8 years. I had become comfortable with my life. My kids were grown and in college. I thought I was ready to be a wife again. After 5 years and major problems and his major issues, we ended it this week. I couldn't wait for him to leave. To not have the stress of him not working and too much drinking and serious health issues.
I think being married to the right person for the right reasons is a good thing. Being single and happy with your life is very possible. Lots of people are doing it. Maybe you guys just need some activities apart from each other. How long have you been in counseling? There is a lot to consider. Back to your question. Right now I'm thinking I'm lonely, not necessarly miserable. But I know that this was the right decision for me and I'll be happier. My husband will also be happier being back where he came from. I hope to be good friends with him.
Loulou
Eve, I think LouLou gave you some good advice. It's one thing for your husband to take the kids for the evening and give you some alone time. Sounds great! But would you really be happy if you knew they weren't coming back that night? Also, have you stopped to think that while divorcing and sharing custody might be "fine" for *you*, it might not be so "fine" for your kids?
I'm glad you're in counseling. You're doing the right thing. There's certainly nothing wrong with enjoying (and even craving) your time alone, but be careful what you wish for.
~Ghostwriter, M.A.
I don't mind it.
It took a little while to get used to, but these days I enjoy it. I typically have the kids 4-5 days of the week, ex-H has them mostly on the weekends, allowing me to go on dates or out with friends, or sometimes nice quiet time.
I'm not an advocate for divorce per se, but I do sometimes think that the time I have with the kids is more quality time since I don't see them every single day. Their dad agrees.
Hi Eve..
Being alone sucks. but you know what? there is worse, that that is to be with someone you don't want to be with.
Do not second guess your decisions on the ground of fear of loneliness. Yes, there is plenty of that on the planet of divorced wives - but at least you are back in the game. If the game will be successful or not, who knows - but you get to play.
It isn't fun to be alone. No. but you know... life goes on.
It's more difficult financially in some ways, but in my case it would have been me taking care of everything anyway because he's self employed. His business account still has my mailing address so I know he's bouncing checks with his checking account. I'm fortunate enough to have a good paying job.
I work 3 twelve hour shifts so I work during his days to have the kids and am completely off when I have them and I have every other weekend to myself.
Very much now. At first no, cuz I foolishly got involved in a new realtionship right away. Now I am just chillin, hanging with my friends and causally dating whne I have time
Actually.... when I know that my kids are safe and happy... I really and truly do enjoy my time without them.
When I was married, unless I was at work, I never even ran to the grocery store without at least one kid.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
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