Anyone tried Divorce Care Support Group?

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Registered: 03-16-2006
Anyone tried Divorce Care Support Group?
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Wed, 08-16-2006 - 12:08pm

This is a bible/Christian based divorce support group (divorcecare.com). I started to attend in the spring but unfortunately the group I was in stopped during the summer. I have been having such a hard time dealing with things lately that I am looking for a new group that meets all year long. Just thought I'd share this information. Maybe someone else will find this group helpful too.

Anyone else have any suggestions, support groups, etc... on how to survive divorce?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 08-16-2006 - 4:52pm

I attended DivorceCare and helped to facilitate some sessions. It is rooted in Christian values and precepts, so I always let people know that right up front. Our church runs DivorceCare continuously, so you can "hop in" any week and keep going as long as you need to.

I don't think it really matters which group you use, just listening to other's stories and getting your story out is important for healing.

Edie

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 9:18am
Hey... I don't have any personal experience with DivorceCare, but in all the years I've heard about it, I've never heard anything negative.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 10-02-2003
Mon, 08-21-2006 - 10:19pm

I emailed a church in my area to ask about this group. My thought process is if it's based on Christian values and I'm the initiator of a divorce and Christians do not agree with divorce - am I out of place if I'm the initiator or am I wrong about the viewpoint?

I've attended a church for 18 yrs that was my husbands church that he grew up in and I'd really like to find a new church, but struggling with my faith since I'm the initiator. Although there are many biblical things my husband did wrong to support the divorce.

Thanks - And I'm not trying to start a religious conversation, just wondering if this support group is the right fit for me as the initiator. Thanks!

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Registered: 11-10-2005
Mon, 08-21-2006 - 11:37pm
I went there for awhile - it was nice. I felt bad for a couple of the women - they had spent more than 20 years with their H, raising children. They got "traded in" on newer models and in CA there is a set term for spousal support. They had been SAHM for so long that they were trying to get jobs as typists to help their kids with college. The men were remarried or had their new GF's pregnant. I quit, that's why I will never get married again. The women were doing what they had to do to get by. I was lucky, didn't rely on a man to take care of me and came out relatively unscathed, other than the inherent distrust for men.
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Registered: 03-16-2006
Tue, 08-22-2006 - 12:17pm
Just got a chance to read your message. I was going through the same questions in my mind before and ever after I filed for divorce. What shocked me was when I talked to my Pastor and he told me to divorce my husaband and make sure he got nothing out of the divorce. I was floored.
I didn't go through the whole program but I think it would be helpful. There is a section/chaper that deals with "biblical" reasons for the divorce. It was tough to sit and listen to that but it also is helpful to know that there is nothing too big for God to handle and nothing too bad for him to forgive. I think it's forgiving ourselves that forsters all the guilt.