are records checked in the process?
Find a Conversation
are records checked in the process?
| Sun, 07-01-2007 - 8:15pm |
This is for Massachusett court:
My husband keeps sending me mixed emotions about where we stand and has made some pretty dumb comments I think to dilleberatly confuse me. I don't like having my head messed with especially having 3 kids (4,3 &2), and not knowing one minute weather he's gonna call me angry, or the next cause he needs a favor. I can't handel the anxioty everytime my phone rings. I haven't filed for legal seperation yet because I believe (not positive) he has warrants (bench atleast). So I don't want him to get in any more unneccessary trouble. Do they run your records when you file something like this or is one thing not related to the other? I just need to get on with my life cause I believe he already has, and for some reason finds happiness in confussing me. If anyone can, any legal advice would be extreemly appriciated.
My husband keeps sending me mixed emotions about where we stand and has made some pretty dumb comments I think to dilleberatly confuse me. I don't like having my head messed with especially having 3 kids (4,3 &2), and not knowing one minute weather he's gonna call me angry, or the next cause he needs a favor. I can't handel the anxioty everytime my phone rings. I haven't filed for legal seperation yet because I believe (not positive) he has warrants (bench atleast). So I don't want him to get in any more unneccessary trouble. Do they run your records when you file something like this or is one thing not related to the other? I just need to get on with my life cause I believe he already has, and for some reason finds happiness in confussing me. If anyone can, any legal advice would be extreemly appriciated.

In my state you can't file for separation. You have to separate, wait a year and file for divorce. Now, if you are filing for support because he has legally deserted the family by moving out, then file and get your support. Presumes he is working.
And as for warrants ... oh dear ... his problem, right?! Of course, if he gets arrested I guess he won't be earning a salary with which to pay you support.
Ah, I know ... contact a lawyer, pronto ... even legal aid. That's where you will get your answer on what to do.
M
YOU dont want HIM to suffer more financial trouble because *WE* can't afford it? huh? I'm confused. You want a divorce, but you still see your relationship as a 'we'?
IMHO, his warrants are his problem now. Not yours, why are you still trying to protect him? And I don't care where you live, the longer you run from a warrant, the more time in jail he is going to have to serve. SO the sooner he turns himself in, the better. And it would look a heck of a lot better if he did turn himself in instead of them finding him one way or another.
Good luck!
ITA!
To the OP: Call the court house or the police department and ask anonymously. Unless someone recognizes his name along the way, it's unlikely. However, there are certainly no guarantees.
Thinking about you, not what's best for him or what's best for the two of you is part of the separation process.
I am unable ot give legal or medical advice. My opinions are based on my experiences and my personal research.