are records checked in the process?

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-2007
are records checked in the process?
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Sun, 07-01-2007 - 8:15pm
This is for Massachusett court:
My husband keeps sending me mixed emotions about where we stand and has made some pretty dumb comments I think to dilleberatly confuse me. I don't like having my head messed with especially having 3 kids (4,3 &2), and not knowing one minute weather he's gonna call me angry, or the next cause he needs a favor. I can't handel the anxioty everytime my phone rings. I haven't filed for legal seperation yet because I believe (not positive) he has warrants (bench atleast). So I don't want him to get in any more unneccessary trouble. Do they run your records when you file something like this or is one thing not related to the other? I just need to get on with my life cause I believe he already has, and for some reason finds happiness in confussing me. If anyone can, any legal advice would be extreemly appriciated.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-2006
Sun, 07-01-2007 - 10:32pm

In my state you can't file for separation. You have to separate, wait a year and file for divorce. Now, if you are filing for support because he has legally deserted the family by moving out, then file and get your support. Presumes he is working.

And as for warrants ... oh dear ... his problem, right?! Of course, if he gets arrested I guess he won't be earning a salary with which to pay you support.

Ah, I know ... contact a lawyer, pronto ... even legal aid. That's where you will get your answer on what to do.

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Registered: 06-27-2007
Mon, 07-02-2007 - 9:11am
The warrants are his problem because I tried for years (everytime we got or taxes back or when he'd get a bonus from work) to have him take a few days of work to go to court and figure it all out. Since we had the money he could pay what ever they were asking, and just get on with it. He just kept refusing. Now he's no longer here and I just want to end this whole nightmare. He won't give me any straight answer when we talk about whats next. So if I file (in Massachusetts you can file anytime for separation) I don't want him to end up in more finacial trouble cause now with us living apart we can't afford it. I guess I'll just have to call the court house. Thank you.
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Registered: 03-31-2003
Mon, 07-02-2007 - 3:53pm
You say "I don't want him to end up in more finacial trouble cause now with us living apart we can't afford it."
YOU dont want HIM to suffer more financial trouble because *WE* can't afford it? huh? I'm confused. You want a divorce, but you still see your relationship as a 'we'?
IMHO, his warrants are his problem now. Not yours, why are you still trying to protect him? And I don't care where you live, the longer you run from a warrant, the more time in jail he is going to have to serve. SO the sooner he turns himself in, the better. And it would look a heck of a lot better if he did turn himself in instead of them finding him one way or another.
Good luck!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 07-02-2007 - 4:40pm

ITA!

To the OP: Call the court house or the police department and ask anonymously. Unless someone recognizes his name along the way, it's unlikely. However, there are certainly no guarantees.

Thinking about you, not what's best for him or what's best for the two of you is part of the separation process.

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Registered: 06-17-2007
Mon, 07-02-2007 - 9:00pm
I don't think they check records for a sep unless there is a question with custody. I am concerned that he has warrants though. Nice of you to look out for him on that one, does he deserve it?