Back Together After Separation

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Registered: 01-16-2008
Back Together After Separation
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Thu, 04-17-2008 - 1:30pm

Hi All -


I realize this may not be the best board to post this question on (and please feel free to guide me to another board).

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Registered: 10-25-2006
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 2:13pm

Chasing,


Hi. You've made one of the "ugly" discoveries in life especially when you separate or divorce: people take sides. It's a very human thing to do. And, it's often not apparent until you have a crisis.


I think you're smart to make your own friends. We all need friends in our lives. Plus, it's a fact, not everyone is going to like your spouse and vice versa.


As far as your questions, here's my advice.


Don't hold anything against your husband for his friends response. He's not

CL-Wisdomtooth2020

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Registered: 02-03-2008
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 3:16pm

I saw this from the other side. When DH and I were going through marital problems (but no separation), my friends clearly chose my side and his friends clearly chose his. DH only has a couple of friends, which meant that he was 'friends' with some of my friends, but during our problems, we pretty much kept all of that separate.


Now that we have worked everything out, both sets of friends have welcomed us both back with open arms. I don't think either of us hold any grudges towards the other sets of friends.