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Bad day
| Thu, 02-01-2007 - 9:04pm |
STBX decided to be really nice today. Took me to run errans, my lawyers and lunch. He even went with me to drop the kids off at day care. It was probably the best day we have had in years. Then we get home and he wants sex. We end up fighting and he left. Yesterday I did really good. No tears at all. Tonight I have cried and cried. Why did he have to turn a good day bad. There is no way I will sleep with him so he throughs a fit. To top it off I am dealing with my divorce being filed. I had to go finish paying so they will file today. Taking the payment in knowing if is all a go now was really hard. STBX is still blaming me. He did tell his mom. He told them we have just grown apart. I guess he forgot the cheating part. So now I look like the bad person trying to break up my family.


That hurts I know because my stbx has done that to me. We were married to each other two other times. I dont know why they think that they can be nice, make us want them physically while they are wanting a divorce. Sometimes I think males just look at things differently. Totally different colored glasses.
My son and I were talking about older men wanting younger women. He says its biological.
All species do what they need to survive and flourish. so he says its in the biological make up for them to be attracted to younger women. Because they are child bearing age.
Its just like animals , you dont see a male dog attracted to a bitch that isnt in heat etc. (my stbx must really be messed up cause his OW is almost 52 but then he hasnt seen her in 30 years. its crazy! He is picturing a 20 year old I spose. LOL)
yes it is sickening with humans because we have so much brain power, values, ideals a soul, our religions etc that make our lives more complicated. Love, Romance and Sex are special to us.
So even though they dont do it because they want babies they do it because of the biological attraction, ie being biological instead of smart, loyal and sensible. Add to that the visual stuff ie just got off the porn site .......blah blah. I think porn has a big roll in cheating.
Now before anyone gets angry about comparing us to animals ....We ARE the human animal. Mammals in fact. Very intelligent and complicated, yes but we are the human animal. anyway
Most animal species are not monogomous. Usually it is one male who has alot of females in like a herd etc. So I really believe that part of mens problems stems from some of that. Yes Of coursse we are special, have souls at least most of us believe that, we get our feelings hurt over betrayal etc. I think some men dont know what they are doing. Then we have tv and advertising, the beautiful woman who is made to look perfect on tv or in the ad. and how sexy we could all be if we were only PERFECT.
And we have all the swimsuit contests and the porn. Even our regular tv shows flaunt sex . I get so uncomfortable when am sitting in a room watching a regular tv show with my kids and grandkids. and they bring on a viagra commercial. And my grandkids say What is that stuff for grandma .....!!! Our society has become so sex engrossed. Men and women are bombarded with it daily.
Then someone cheats and familys break up, hearts are broken. children are left in a one parent household.
I have no idea what any of us can do about it.
Sorry my reply to you turned out so long. I am probably venting and talking to myself.
Sometimes I wonder if we just loved ourselves enough we wouldnt rely so on someone else to love us and make us happy.
good luck and hang in there!!! Things will get better.