been 2 months since I posted

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Registered: 01-10-2007
been 2 months since I posted
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Wed, 10-31-2007 - 9:22am

Good morning everyone


2 months ago(Sept.7) I posted that H decided he wanted out. I also explained we have to live in the same house due to our financial situation.


Nothing has really changed except that I CANNOT stand to be in the same room with him. I am hurting so bad. I feel like my whole world has fallen apart, and I cannot fix it. When he first told me, and we knew we had to stay in the same house, we said the Spring, well I made the decision that Feb.1st is the day we move out..separately. The kids know what is going on, and don't like it, but nothing I can do to change any of it, this is his decision not mine.. I never knew he felt this way about our marriage.


I guess the reason I am posting this morning, is because ... even though I didn't ask for this, why are my kids mad at me?? I am not the type of person who will put the blame on him even if he deserves all of it because he is still their dad.Even though he asked for this and I hurt so much and am scared to death...part of me seems to be holding on to the "what if"? Is this normal??? I don't think I could ever stay with him now..but why is my brain asking these questions and tormenting me???


I am so confused.. I have no idea what to do, or where to go from here.


thanks for reading


T

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 11-12-2007 - 9:39am

Hi there.... how are the kids (and you) doing?


I believe that it's probably just a stressful situation for you all... and the old saying goes... the kids will express their feelings to the parent that they trust the most, so maybe it's not so much that they are mad AT YOU, but that they are mad... sad... upset... confused... and you are the "safe parent" to express theselves to.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~