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| Thu, 06-19-2008 - 3:02pm |
Kinda sounds like many of us are getting closer and closer to the finish line in these races toward sanity. I met with my STBX yesterday for about 4 hours with my suggestions for taking this back from the hands of particularily his lawyer who seems to think we have assets worth fighting over. I went through the deposition from hell 2 weeks ago which this lawyer dragged out for 3 1/2 hours grilling me over book purchases and so many irrelevant things that it was obvious he needed to raise his billing hours for the month-at $300 an hour his bill alone will be $1,500 to conclude that as a retired librarian I enjoy reading-Add to that my lawyer's fees and the court stenographer's and it was a total waste of money we don't have. My lawyer and I have suggested an arbitrator but STBX's lawyer wants this to go to a jury trial. Less billable time with arbitration???
The most amazing part of the 4 hours with STBX was hearing him express how badly I hurt his feelings while I was responding to the unrelentless badgering by his lawyer during the deposition! I hurt HIS feelings...Geez-this while the lawyer demanded that I BUTT out of my kids' lives-I did butt out and didn't remind either grown son of their dad's birthday or father's day (it's not like they don't know the dates) and STBX was hurt that they didn't contact him-
Anyway my suggestion was a 50/50 split of liquid assets (CD, stocks and bonds, 457K)-no alimony-with me receiving 60% of the profit from the sale of the house. Our home is 5 years old and has considerable equity built up.

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Camult- You give us hope.
Is your health insurance a single plan or family?
Do you pay for your own policy?
I kept the family plan from my work, and kept X on it along with kids.
Right now I'm on a family plan in his name-because we were both state employees I could have had my own policy but didn't know I would need it-It looks like it will be considerably less costly when the divorce is finalized and we switch to single coverage. I am currently paying for another policy for my 23 yr. old who does not have coverage at his job. My STBX quit paying for that and I took that on for now.
Right now the day to day bills living in this house are overwhelming and I can't do anything about them-everything is in
Sorry Mary............false alarm.
I want him to buy me out of the house to give me my share of the equity up front. Otherwise the house may just sit there.
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